Articles on After Separation

Common barriers to making it work

Most parents experience some teething problems as they adapt to becoming co-parents. These can feel like insurmountable barriers at the time but with a bit of effort and understandin... (continued)

Meeting new partners

In time you will both move on and meet new partners. For some older children, they are glad to see you happy and getting on with your life - they may feel they can stop worrying abou... (continued)

Handovers are Hard

If you are feeling awkward or upset at the prospect of facing your ex, then handovers can be very difficult. You may have to use all your powers of self control to stay calm. ... (continued)

Is Shared Care for You?

Dads are more ‘hands on’ than ever before but the fact remains that in the UK, children are mostly cared for by mums. Most people’s work commitments are the big bar... (continued)

Housing Issues

  The risk of losing your home and uncertainty about future housing is a major worry when a relationship is ending. It’s important that you understand your legal right... (continued)

New Partners - Different Perspectives

It is natural for people to look for and form new relationships after divorce or separation.  For some this might have started prior to the separation whereas for others it can ... (continued)

Fears for the Future and Moving On

There's no getting away from the fact that separation and divorce is a one of life’s most painful experiences. In fact, most people say that it was worse than they ever exp... (continued)

What is co-parenting?

Co-parenting is a term used by professionals but rarely by parents themselves. Co-parent is actually a shortened version of cooperative parent and cooperation is basically the key to... (continued)

What children think about contact

Both parents need to agree contact arrangements, but these need to take account of changing circumstances as children grow older. Younger children benefit from frequent and regul... (continued)

Teenagers and Older Children

It is natural for teenagers to want to spend more time with their friends and doing activities than to have close contact with their parents. If you are used to reviewing the parenti... (continued)

Adjusting to life after separation

After years of being in a relationship, being separated and parenting apart takes time to adjust to and you will need to be kind to yourself as well as to your child/children. De... (continued)

Arguments and the money issues – What about the kids

When couples separate one of the main things they will argue about is maintenance, how much, what is a fair amount, what it covers and how it gets paid. Also old arguments from when ... (continued)

Children Have to Cope With Changes In Families - But They Do Need Help!

Arranging effective child maintenance

Arranging effective child maintenance If you’re separating from your child’s other parent then child maintenance will be one of many things you have to sort out. But ... (continued)

Using a 'weekly parenting plan'

Using a ‘Weekly Parenting Plan’   Most parents find that a regular and predictable pattern of contact works best for everyone. Some parents’ worry that... (continued)

Fears for the Future and Moving On

There's no getting away from the fact that separation and divorce is a one of life’s most painful experiences. In fact, most people say that it was worse than they ever exp... (continued)

New Partners - Different Perspectives

It is natural for people to look for and form new relationships after divorce or separation.  For some this might have started prior to the separation whereas for others it can ... (continued)

Parenting Plans

A Parenting Plan is a personal document detailing how you intend to share your duties and responsibilities as parents. It can include everything from where the children will live rig... (continued)

Helping your child deal with loyalty issues

  Loyalty issues for children after separation Loyalty conflicts for children arise when closeness to one parent means being disloyal to the other.  Children love b... (continued)

Housing Issues

  The risk of losing your home and uncertainty about future housing is a major worry when a relationship is ending. It’s important that you understand your legal right... (continued)

Handovers are Hard

If you are feeling awkward or upset at the prospect of facing your ex, then handovers can be very difficult. You may have to use all your powers of self control to stay calm. ... (continued)

Keeping in touch with your child's school

  An important way of helping your child do well is to show an interest and be actively involved in their education. Taking and collecting from school or getting involved in... (continued)

What is co-parenting?

Co-parenting is a term used by professionals but rarely by parents themselves. Co-parent is actually a shortened version of cooperative parent and cooperation is basically the key to... (continued)

Common barriers to making it work

Most parents experience some teething problems as they adapt to becoming co-parents. These can feel like insurmountable barriers at the time but with a bit of effort and understandin... (continued)

Meeting new partners

In time you will both move on and meet new partners. For some older children, they are glad to see you happy and getting on with your life - they may feel they can stop worrying abou... (continued)

What children think about contact

Both parents need to agree contact arrangements, but these need to take account of changing circumstances as children grow older. Younger children benefit from frequent and regul... (continued)

Teenagers and Older Children

It is natural for teenagers to want to spend more time with their friends and doing activities than to have close contact with their parents. If you are used to reviewing the parenti... (continued)

Benefits

Once you’re no longer living together, you’re classed as separated for tax and benefit purposes. Separating from your partner may mean that you become entitled to new ben... (continued)

Child Contact Centres

Child contact centres are neutral places where children meet the mother or father who no longer lives at home with them. They provide a valuable service in allowing contact to take p... (continued)

As Children Grow Their Needs Change

Children grow up and develop through different stages, gradually becoming more involved in the world outside their immediate families. Starting nursery and school are both significan... (continued)