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Anonymous
27 October 2011 @ 15:27
Akua
31 October 2011 @ 13:39
Yes I think it is fair. Your child is a 50/50 product of you and you both have equal responsibility for raising that child. CMEC should be able to help you calculate costs in a fairer way.
Tinks77
31 October 2011 @ 12:47
Splitting the costs 50/50 seems fair no matter who earns most or least.
PCadmin
31 October 2011 @ 12:34
Anonymous
27 October 2011 @ 15:29
Akua
31 October 2011 @ 13:35
Ask your ex if he/she wouldn't mind copying you into any texts that include arrangements so that your son doesn't become a messenger between the two of you
Tinks77
31 October 2011 @ 12:46
Ask your ex to keep you informed even if they do prefer to arrange things by text.
PCadmin
31 October 2011 @ 12:36
That must make it hard for your son as he has to be the messenger. Tell your ex that and ask him to arrange things directly with you.
Anonymous
27 October 2011 @ 15:30
Jamie
1 November 2011 @ 18:34
Can you contact the school and ask them to send you the information?. Schools are familiar with these situations and can assist .
Tinks77
31 October 2011 @ 12:44
Speaking to your ex-wife may help her to understand that you are just as interested in your child's education as she is and that you would like to ask the school to copy you in to school reports and notification about parents evening. Perhaps you could take it in turn to attend parents evenings, or attend together?
PCadmin
31 October 2011 @ 12:37
You could contact the school and ask them to send you information, copying the letter to your ex.
mich33
3 days ago
Bern
2 days ago
Sounds like you're worried about your kids when they're with their dad. Have you had a conversation with him about this yet?
Mich33 - if you use the forum you can say more about your situation and get more responses.
mich33
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yes and he just says i am mad.i heard him admit it to my 5 year old when i was in the kitchen.also believe he was driving home from his parents with kids in car after having two glasses of wine
james79
4 days ago
Bern
3 days ago
People say lots of things they don't mean when they're angry and upset - it's quite a big thing for a mum to walk away from her children although sadly, it does sometimes happen.
Your child has the right to have contact with both parents so if your ex did want to start seeing your child you'd be expected, as parents, to sort something out. How is your child coping? It must be v worrying for him/her.
Bern
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I'm glad your daughter is coping well; you must be doing a good job. Without knowing all the facts, it seems to me that if you've given up your job to care for your daughter and you've become her main carer all this time, then you would have a strong case for her to carry on living with you.
james79
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she is coping very well as we lived as a family since she was born, have got no problem for her to see her or even to sit down with adults and sort things out, find the course of the problem and talk about it, tried to keep in touch and but fails as she never answer my calls or reply my messages, child hasn't been well since took her to the hospital tried to call her no lucky tried to text her was no reply, i stopped working now and l am prepare to be a single parent and ask for help as have got no income at the moment, my worries is l may do all the arrangements to look after my daughter alone and later she might come and clam to live with child as i have lost the job already, have l got the right to refuse? but I wont stop her to contact and see the child any time she wants.
LizW
11 days ago
Bern
10 days ago
Yes and no! If you're the main carer you are free to make day to day decisions about your daughter. However, this doesn't mean that her dad has no right to have a say in her upbringing. It all depends on what things you're disagreeing about. Generally it's best for children if parents can co-operate but it can be quite rocky after a separation.
What exactly is going on? Perhaps you could post more details on the Forum?
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I agree, it would be good to approach the school in a united manner, however if this isn't possible the next best option is to contact the school directly and explain that you would like a copy so that you can remain updated about your child's progress in school.