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Hello, My wife has been suggesting divorce for a number of years, citing differences and I have managed to continue to keep her 'at bay' so to speak but the few days have, again, been difficult. We have verbally agreed, seeing as she is insistent that divorce is the only way, a co... (continued)
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Anonymous
Thu 27, Oct 2011 at 3:27pm
Give an answer ->My ex earns twice my salary but expects me to split costs for our child 50/50 now we’re divorced. Is this fair?
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Akua
Mon 31, Oct 2011 at 1:39pm
Yes I think it is fair. Your child is a 50/50 product of you and you both have equal responsibility for raising that child. CMEC should be able to help you calculate costs in a fairer way.
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Tinks77
Mon 31, Oct 2011 at 12:47pm
Splitting the costs 50/50 seems fair no matter who earns most or least.
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Mon 31, Oct 2011 at 12:34pm
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Thu 27, Oct 2011 at 3:29pm
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My ex bought our son a mobile phone and now makes all arrangements to see him via text without consulting me. How do I regain some control?
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Akua
Mon 31, Oct 2011 at 1:35pm
Ask your ex if he/she wouldn't mind copying you into any texts that include arrangements so that your son doesn't become a messenger between the two of you
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Tinks77
Mon 31, Oct 2011 at 12:46pm
Ask your ex to keep you informed even if they do prefer to arrange things by text.
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PCadmin
Mon 31, Oct 2011 at 12:36pm
That must make it hard for your son as he has to be the messenger. Tell your ex that and ask him to arrange things directly with you.
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Thu 27, Oct 2011 at 3:30pm
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My ex wife never tells me about parents’ evenings & fails to pass on school reports. How do I make sure I'm involved in my child's education?
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Jamie
Tue 1, Nov 2011 at 6:34pm
Can you contact the school and ask them to send you the information?. Schools are familiar with these situations and can assist .
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As long as there is no court order stopping you, and you are the parent, then the school must give you reports and parents evening invites. Write to them or just pop inand they should see you as a concerned parent.
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Tinks77
Mon 31, Oct 2011 at 12:44pm
Speaking to your ex-wife may help her to understand that you are just as interested in your child's education as she is and that you would like to ask the school to copy you in to school reports and notification about parents evening. Perhaps you could take it in turn to attend parents evenings, or attend together?
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PCadmin
Mon 31, Oct 2011 at 12:37pm
You could contact the school and ask them to send you information, copying the letter to your ex.
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I agree, it would be good to approach the school in a united manner, however if this isn't possible the next best option is to contact the school directly and explain that you would like a copy so that you can remain updated about your child's progress in school.
Mon 31, Oct 2011 at 1:33pm
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Anonymous
Sat 18, May 2013 at 10:23am
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I live in my partners house with my 2 children, he says the relationship is ended and wants us out. Where do I start to sort this out?
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pirelli
Wed 22, May 2013 at 8:49am
Hi, I'd put your comment on the forum as many more people will see your question there. I agree with the other comments about advice. Also, does this article help at all? http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/managing-a-long-break-up-parent-connection.
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Bern
Sun 19, May 2013 at 10:13am
It's hard to say without more information about your circumstances. I would suggest that you go on to the forum as you'll get much more help. Is the housing situation your main worry? It would be useful to have more info - How long have you lived together and how old area the children? Is the house rented or owned by your partner? Whatever the answers I suppose that you need to find out what your housing options are for if you move out. Start with your local housing dept. the CAB would also be helpful. It might be worth getting some legal advice too. In the meantime go to the Forum. It is such a big worry when this happens but there is lots of support for you . Hope we hear from you soon.
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Hi, I'd put your comment on the forum as many more people will see your question there. Also, does this article help at all? http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/managing-a-long-break-up-parent-connection.
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are you living in the Uk? Citizens advice is a good place to start http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/england/relationships_e/relationships_relationship_problems_e/ending_a_relationship_when_you_re_living_together.htm
Tue 21, May 2013 at 8:46pm
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The children are 5 and 10, the house is owned by partner and I've lived there 3 years.
Partner has brain tumor recently had meds changed. My family live 200 miles away, do I disrupt the children s schooling and move closer to family or stay local thinking its meds and condition which is making partner want us out? can i suspend my school placement here and temporarily put the children in school local to family until I'm sure of where would be best to live, does moving in with parents hinder my chance of my own place??Mon 20, May 2013 at 9:30pm
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sugarbeet
Tue 7, May 2013 at 9:43am
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My married partner is expecting my baby & the husband want to take my son on as his own, which she is happy to do. Do I have any rights?
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Jamie
Tue 7, May 2013 at 7:30pm
You could apply for parental responsibility http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/fathers-legal-rights-and-responsibilities.
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Anonymous
Sat 27, Apr 2013 at 4:51pm
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What needs to happen to ensure supervised contact? I am worried that my estr husband is too unstable to responsibly look after our 1yr old.
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Bern
Sun 28, Apr 2013 at 5:28pm
It depends what you mean by 'supervised'. If you'd be ok with your ex being supervised by his mum, for example, you could sort this out yourselves or use mediation. If you want to use a Contact Centre (http://www.naccc.org.uk/) you can often refer yourself or ask a solicitor to make the referral. Again, you could use mediation to help you sort this out. Court is there as a last resort if you can't agree but generally the hope is that parents will find a way of working together.
If you have any other questions, you'd be very welcome to use the forum.
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