Getting it Right for Children When Parents Part | FAQs
- Who is this programme for?
- What are the benefits of the programme?
- How long will this programme take?
- Do I have to pay for the programme and why do I have to register?
- Do I have to do the programme with the other parent of my child(ren)?
- How does this programme relate to the SPIP?
- Is there an exam/test I have to pass?
Who is this programme for?
Getting it Right for Children when Parents Part is for parents who are in the process of separating or who have separated and want to keep their child(ren) out of disagreements with their ex-partner.
The programme is not suitable for separated parents who are experiencing extreme conflict or where domestic abuse is an issue.
What are the benefits of the programme?
This programme is based on a tried and tested way of learning how to communicate better and avoid putting your child(ren) in the middle. It can help you to:
- recognise how and why children might get 'caught in the middle' of conflict and how to avoid this;
- learn skills that can help you to commuicate better with the other parent;
- help you work together with the other parent and focus on what's best for your child(ren).
The programme allows you to go at your own pace and also to record your feelings, your progress and set your golas in My Goals. This can help you monitor how far you have come, what you have achieved and to plan ahead.
Getting it Right for Children is available 24/7 so you have the flexibility to view the programme when it is most convenient for you. It may also appeal if you don't want to discuss your personal situation in a face-to-face environment.
How long will this programme take?
You don't have to do the whole programme in one go. The process of building skills takes time and is all about practicing and building up slowly. You can choose the pace that's right for you.
Do I have to pay for the programme and why do I have to register?
Getting it Right for Children is free to use, as it is funded by the Department for Education. All you have to do is complete the online registration porcess.
We ask you to register so that each time you go back to the programme, it will recognise the point you were at during your last visit. This allows you to re-enter at different times and from different computers and to keep working on the golas you have set yourself.
As part of the registration, we will ask you some details about your situation to help us understand who is uing the programme and to make any chnages to improve it. There will also be a couple of questions at the end, when you have finished the programme. We would like this programme to help as many families as possible and to help us do this, we would really value yoru thoughts on what you think about it.
Your details will be securely stored and only accessed by the research team at OnePlusOne. No personal details will be released and information will only be used to assess the value of the programme and to make changes where necessary.
Do I have to do the programme with the other parent of my child(ren)?
We know that it can be difficult to do things with an ex-partner, especially where there is still conflict about the children so the programme has been designed to allow you to complete it on your own.
The programme helps you to gradually build up the skills to help you communicate with the other parent about your child(ren) and to help keep them out of the middle.
It would be best if you were both able to work through the programme separately and at your own pace so you are learning the same skills and being shown the same insights. That way you can both use the skills to help you get things right for your child(ren).
If you are still struggling to reach agreements after the end of this programme, you might find it helpful to use and online parenting plan, where you can negotiate various arrangements with the other parent and make changes when necessary (see Splitting Up? Put Kids First).
How does this programme relate to the SPIP?
Separated Parenting Information Programmes (SPIP) is about helping parents learn more about the challenges of post-separation parenting, including the effects of on-going conflict on children. They focus on separating or separated parents who are going through the court to sort out child care arrangements. The SPIP sessons are often court ordered.
Getting it Right for Children helps parents build on the skills they have learned during SPIP sessions and take the next steps by showing the skills in action and ways to use them in their own situation.
Getting it Right for Children can also be used as a stand-alone programme and is available to separating or separated parents who are not going through the court, as well as some who are.
Is there an exam/test I have to pass?
No you do not have to pass a test or exam to complete this programme.