Childs father wants contact again
I have a 10 year old son from a previous relationship. His father "P" and I broke up in 2006 after a 5 year relationship. I never married his father and as our son was born in 2001 P has no parental responsibility.
During 2007 P had regular contact with my son, roughly twice a month. However gradually my son didn't enjoy going to see him, so during 2008 I agreed that P could come and see him at our home. Towards the end of 2008 his fathers visits dwindled out as most weekends he was "busy" as he had a new girlfriend, so since Nov 2008 my son has had no contact with his father whatsoever. I do recieve CSA payments and continue to do so.
At the end of 2006 I had a new partner,"M", and we married July 2011. We have lived together since 2007 and M has always treated my son with love and respect as if he were his own. My son is happy and enjoys our family life.
Yesterday I received a solicitors letter saying that P would like to reinstate contact with my son. I spoke to my son about this, but he doesn't want to see/speak to him. After 3 and a half years of no contact I can understand his thinking and its seems unfair that P wasn't interested in his son when he had better things to do, however this is not about what I want, I have to think solely about the welfare of my son. He is apprehensive as he doesn't know P anymore and is happy with how his life is. My son will shortly be 11, he is very mature and strong minded. He knows what he wants. Should I respond to the letter politely saying that this isn't the right time for my son, but I can take contact details if he decides to change his mind? I'm not sure if P has any rights to see my son as he pays maintenance. At my sons age will his view be taken into consideration? Any advice welcomed.