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Well heres the overview for your insight...Basically my husband and his ex wife have a 7 year old daughter together and have been separated for 6 years. The mother and daughter moved back home over 4 hours away for family support and my husband didn't contest this as he appreciated her desire to be back home albeit a hard decision. The divorce was amicable and no special circumstances just a broken down marriage very sad but these things happen. Initially access was granted as once a month where my husband agreed to drive the full distance to see his daughter from a Friday to sunday by driving 16 hours in a wkend in order for her to see my husbands family. However once school started the mother stopped this access and insisted that this would be too much travel for the child and it was agreed that only during school holidays access was granted, so this was very hard for our family to accept but we did so for the child. Since the child started school we have been desperately trying to find solutions and have come to the conclusion that having a second home near to the child would make things work. Therefore we have invested everything we have in doing this, and discussed it with the mother who initially was supportive, however now the sale has gone through and we have the property she is still restricting access, and not even agreeing to once a month or on any school nights unless its a holiday. The upsetting part here is that for the last three months we have had access from a Thursday to sunday when renting holiday lets to make sure that this set up could work and it has, meaning we have been much more integrated in the childs life, taking her to school, classes, etc and most importantly she has been seeing her sibling more frequently who is now 3 years old instead of every couple of months! however now we have the house she has retracted this and wont agree to anything additional. We are now taking steps to mediation as she is very unreasonable and clearly just wants to control the situation instead of thinking of what the childs needs are. Can anyone advise me on this or anyone know about the fathers rights, he is very distraught about everything and I am supporting him as best as I can. we feel the only solution might be to move down there however that is a huge step but we will do whatever it takes. the child gets up0set frequently as she misses her sibling tremendously and it is clear the animosity in the mother is affecting the child as her behaviour has changed drastically the last month, but that is another discussion. please help any advice completely welcome, I do also appreciate that the change is a lot for the mother by the way but my husband has supported what she wants from day one, we are not asking for joint access to be clear we are asking for one long wkend a month, we would of course ask for more but know this is definitely not something we can ask for at this time.