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Mon 27, Feb 2012 at 9:29pm
my ex partner and i have a 3yr old son together. my ex partner has never wanted contact with our child and has never had contact within the 3yrs. He has been charged with harassment and i now have an injunction in place against my ex partner as he became extremely abusive and threatening towards me. He is now claiming to want contact with our son and after agreeing to supervised contact to begin with, i have now been advised by my solicitor to deny all contact between my ex partner and our son. now he is taking me to court, i am worried about the whole thing and dont know what to expect at all-please could you help me out. what is the likely outcome of the hearing? are we allowed in court together even if there is an injunction in place?
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My heart goes out to you...I had a similar experience and was scared stiff before going to court. Is it a family court and have you a good relationship with your solicitor? I told my solicitor I was a very worried and he arranged a meeting with the police officer who would be in court because of the injunction...and she was great...told me exactly what would happen and even took me to see the courtroom. They even arranged that I would not have to go in the same door to the courthouse...so ask for help. The other thing that really helped was having two members of my family and a very close friend with me...who can go with you? I found the following article helpful as background reading....and I was told by everyone that the welfare of the child was the most important factor in what the judge decided. I can see that that is the most important factor for you too.
http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/the-court-and-cafcass-how-decisions-are-made-if-parents-cant-agree I'd love to hear how you get on...Good luck
That must be quite daunting for you . I am not sure what the procedure is if there is an injunction in place but I am sure your solicitor could answer that for you . if you have legal representation then they are there to help you through the process so make sure your solicitor knows your concerns . What is your biggest fear of meeting in court ? As the other poster said the court is there to make decisions that are in the best interest of your child and to ensure no one is at risk . Did the supervised contact ever happen or did your solicitor suggest you stopped it before it got to that stage ?
whats your views on your little boy having his dad come into his life at this stage ?
Thank you both for your comments, all i have is my sons best interests at heart. Yes i have a very supportive family who have supported me throughout and will be supporting me in court. I'm worried about seeing my ex partner in court and about the outcome of the hearing. We never got to the stage of supervised contact as my ex partner was harrassing me at the time and things got very ugly. My son doesnt know his father and now knowing what my ex partner is capable of i do not trust him and dont believe- at the moment, he is or will be a stable, safe father. The court hearing is next week and my solicitor has now gone on sick leave for a couple of weeks, so as you might well know i'm feeling very anxious about the whole thing! I will keep you posted.
Thank you both for your comments, all i have is my sons best interests at heart. Yes i have a very supportive family who have supported me throughout and will be supporting me in court. I'm worried about seeing my ex partner in court and about the outcome of the hearing. We never got to the stage of supervised contact as my ex partner was harrassing me at the time and things got very ugly. My son doesnt know his father and now knowing what my ex partner is capable of i do not trust him and dont believe- at the moment, he is or will be a stable, safe father. The court hearing is next week and my solicitor has now gone on sick leave for a couple of weeks, so as you might well know i'm feeling very anxious about the whole thing! I will keep you posted.
Thank you both for your comments, all i have is my sons best interests at heart. Yes i have a very supportive family who have supported me throughout and will be supporting me in court. I'm worried about seeing my ex partner in court and about the outcome of the hearing. We never got to the stage of supervised contact as my ex partner was harrassing me at the time and things got very ugly. My son doesnt know his father and now knowing what my ex partner is capable of i do not trust him and dont believe- at the moment, he is or will be a stable, safe father. The court hearing is next week and my solicitor has now gone on sick leave for a couple of weeks, so as you might well know i'm feeling very anxious about the whole thing! I will keep you posted.