I have no voice
I left my wife four years ago as I could not cope with her lies and deciet. We have two children age 9 and 7. Since we split there have been there have been many things that have happened the have given me concern about the welfare of my children. Such as her new boyfriend smacking my daughter, drug taking, my son sitting on my lap crying his eyes out because he wants to live with me because his mum and her boyfriend are arguing and throwing stuff. I try to talk to her about these things but I get accused of bullying and intimidating her. She then stops me from seeing the children if I question anything as well. There is a court order in place. I am to have staying contact every fortnight and telephone contact every Wednesday and Sunday when they are not with me.
My ex wife recently had a fight with her 14 year old daughter which resulted in her biting her daughter on the leg. Social services were called by the school and the police were involved.
A couple of weeks ago my ex called me by mistake. I listened to what she saying. From what I heard she was talking to someone she had just met, telling them about her dog and the area she lived in. Not the sort of things you would be saying to someone you have met before. She also talked about our children saying how wonderful they are. What got me was when she said as a sort afterthought that she does have another but she is a right effing little bitch.
I also heard a male voice in the background asking who's line is that on the table?
I text her and said it was nice to hear the way she talks about her children.
A few texts went back and forth, no arguing funnily enough. A couple of days later I text her to say having thought about it her behaviour and lifestyle is not acceptable and I have concerns. I asked if she would, with her partner, sit down with me and have a talk. She said yes as she has some things that she wants to say to me. Then out of the blue a bit later I get a message saying that she felt intimidated by me and she won't meet. Instead I need to go to mediation. Right or wrong I called social services and reported my concerns about the drug taking and her attitude towards her daughter.
I feel the need to contact them as i am once again being accused of being something i am not.
I have not had any contact with my children for two weeks. I text today to ask what have i done that she thinks is so bad that she would stop my contact. I was basically told that it was because contacted social services.
I don't know where I am supposed to turn as she won't talk to me. I have genuine concerns about my children's welfare, physical and emotional.
I need to get her back to court to sort this out. She is breaching the contact order on a regular basis. She is using my children to keep me quite.
I don't have the money to pay solicitors fees so will have to do all the court stuff myself.
Is there anybody out there who can help me with filling out court forms and give advice.
Please help I am at the end of my tether.