New partner with kids
I have met a lovely Englishman in Australia who came over 5 years ago with his family. They split about a year and a half later. I met him 8 months ago and because I have been a live in step mum before, I am very cautious about jumping in.
For some reason I am becoming more and more anxious around my partner when he is with his children. At first I wasnt, they fought alot, it was loud and demonstrative but they always made up. I was the calm person in the group.
Now they are more calmer with each other and closer and now I feel like the one that doesnt fit in. Their bond is a very healthy "strong" and I am finding I am feeling more and more anxious.
Does anyone relate to this or have any suggestions.
He wants to move in - he has the kids 38% of the time and so much fear comes up in me. I have read and experienced this before and I know its a real mine field.