Should I leave my husband?
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28 October 2011 @ 10:16
Think I got together with my husband for all the wrong reasons ...we met online and were both coming out of crappy relationships ...we moved in together really soon and got married two years ago - I got pregnant on honeymoon and now our son is six months old ...we're at each other all the time and am worried he'll pick up on how rubbish things are ...keep thinking maybe its better to leave now while he doesn't know what's going on or maybe wait see if things get better ...have told him I will give it another year but he says that's too much pressure ...am so down all the time ...am worried its not good for my son! Doesn't help we have only had sex once since he was born ...
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It’s really difficult during the first year of having a baby. It looks like you haven't spent any time together as a couple. Maybe member of family of close friend could look after baby for day and night or weekend and this would enable you to spend some time together away from daily routine etc.
Don’t leave! As someone else mentioned, what sort of example is this setting to your son if you just run out on him? You are your partner need to focus on getting along together and rekindling your intimacy. Sex does take a back seat when you have a baby, but it is important to keep the romance going. Try to spend an evening together without the baby to spend some quality time together.
You don’t mention why you are always arguing, maybe you should take some responsibility and not just blame your partner? Are you the one who is always picking a fight? It takes a much stronger person to be able to sort through their problems rather than give up – do you want your son to see you as someone who just runs away from things??? Don’t give up on your partner and baby. Try to think about how your partner is feeling, and talk to him about it.
Hi, I think it would be a bit rash to just leave your partner, especially as you have a young son. You seem to focusing only on the bad parts of the relationship, try to think about the GOOD reasons why you are with your partner, why you love him and why you married. You say you are worried about your son picking up on your rows – well no wonder if you only shout at each other and refuse to talk things through! Make a pact not to get angry or shout at each other, and rationally talk about why you are always arguing. Is it money, bringing up the baby? The website coupleconnection.net has some really good tips for talking through things, and getting on with your partner better, check them out.