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31 January 2012 @ 10:35
i'm 26, have a two year old daughter and myself and my partner have seperated. At this stage i am actively looking to move out and set up home so i can have my daughter when possible. My now "ex" has told me that i still have to pay half of the mortgage, half the bills and child support. I have always paid my way fairly, never been abusive but sadly our relationship deteriorated. My ex has the advantage of having family backing her up however i do not. I cannot possibly afford to keep two houses on as well as pay support. I only want the best for them both but not at the expense of my own livelyhood and state of mind. What options do i have. thanks.
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Hi, I found this advice helpful too. Everything seems so complicated in the middle of it all. I worry about the effect of the split on my son...he is just 3....I don't want him to think I don't care about him...looking at the videos on this site show that some parents do a better job than others when they separate. I am taking tips from what the kids say in the videos about how they experienced the fallout from the split! http://theparentconnection.org.uk/videos/living-in-two-homes-after-parents-separate ..is a good one to start with. What do you think?
The relationship is over and you want to move on with your life , see your daughter and do whats right for both your daughter and her mum . Its admirable that you want the best for them .
I am not sure whether you are married or not and therefore i have provided you with some links for being married and also for cohabiting couples .
http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/im-married-and-i-want-a-divorce
and http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/im-not-married-and-want-to-separate.
Hopefully this will give you some ideas of what needs to be considered moving forward .
. You also asked about child support and may find this article useful http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/arranging-effective-child-maintenance.
it sounds to me that both you and your partner have lots of fears around the financial security for the future. Are you still on talking terms and able to discuss options ?.You are right that is is difficult to keep two homes going and it is worth considering ways for you both to maximize your income eg your partner may be entitiled to certain benefits when you move out .If you a re struggling with it , It may be worth considering mediation where they can help you work through the needs of the family , develop some options and look at budgets to help you both make informed choices about your future . Do keep in touch and don't forget our listening service is available too .