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His place, her place, their place, and mine.

posted Wed 22, Mar 2017 at 11:51pm

Where to begin? Being a single parent and dating was a Hard enough. I read all of the books and made sure I waited like they said to before I inteoduced my baby to my guy. She was just a baby at th...

Tags: #datingotherparents
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Court order to make dad schedule contact properly?

posted Wed 22, Mar 2017 at 3:42pm

Hi, new to this site. Have been separated to my ex for just under a year, we have 3 children together. He works shifts but is able to find out way in advance if he wants to, what his shift pattern ...

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My children's father has'nt stuck by our 50/50 Shared custody child arrangements Court order

posted Wed 22, Mar 2017 at 1:34am

Hi There Really need help and advice After taken my ex partner, my children's father through family Court, I wanted the contact arrangement order to be that both children to mainly reside with m...

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Help please. Court order breach and impending court date

posted Tue 21, Mar 2017 at 6:18pm

Hello, I'm looking for some advice and help please. I have a court date for Thursday to take my ex back to court for a breach (I'm trying to add a second breach to it which occurred after filing th...

Tags: Breache,court order
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Completely different parenting approaches

posted Sun 19, Mar 2017 at 9:58pm

My marriage ended two years ago when our Son was six months old. For various reasons we have been going through court processes for access and other orders ( we are from different countries / cultu...

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Not receiving agreed child access

posted Fri 17, Mar 2017 at 4:15pm

I went through a divorce a year ago and we have 8 and 11 yr old sons. It was agreed the boys would live with their mum but we had trouble agreeing access agreement. Me ex refused to discuss or co...

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I Lost access due to my drinking

posted Thu 16, Mar 2017 at 4:49pm

I'm ashamed to admit that a year ago to the day I got drunk with my daughter and lost access. For most of her life (she's 10) i've picked her up every Wednesday and Weekend. I've always had an u...

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telling all the 'bad' stuff

posted Thu 16, Mar 2017 at 11:09am

sorry for this long post. My daughter is 10. She spends half her time with her father, his partner and their 3 year old and the other half with me my partner and our nearly 2 year old. my ex an...

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Contact Orders and Safety Concerns

posted Mon 13, Mar 2017 at 11:03pm

I'm looking for some guidelines relating to breaking/partially following a court agreement. My ex and myself have a court order in place to manage our contact with our two children (my girl age...

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court contact

posted Sun 12, Mar 2017 at 10:33am

my partner had to go to court to see his son due to a bitter split. in court it was agreed that my partner would see his son once a week for tea and on a Saturday and once my step son was ready to ...

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Ex partner won't speak to to me directly about teenage daughter

posted Fri 28, Oct 2011 at 10:12am

My ex and I separated five years ago now and my daughter is now 14 and he is still doing my head in - he will never speak directly to me which is fine when its just sorting out arrangements ...but...

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fathers right

posted Tue 29, May 2012 at 7:34pm

hi, my x said she is going to change the kids names to hers as we have nva been married, now a can only get the kids every other wk/end due to my financal situation as a had a PCL operation last ye...

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fed up !

posted Wed 2, Nov 2011 at 6:12pm

My partner sees the kids ( 9 and 7) every Wednesday 5.00 -6.30 and every other Saturday 9.00 -6.00pm . he is ALWAYS late and turned up today at 5.30pm ! The kids are hungry and he has kept the...

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How do I get started?

posted Fri 9, Dec 2011 at 1:15pm

We have been married for 8 years and have 2 children, aged 4 and 2 years. We have always had a stormy relationship here I have been the noisy angry one and my husband has just walked away and lef...

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What can I do.

posted Tue 13, Dec 2011 at 8:40am

I was married to a violent man for 10 years before I got the help I needed to separate. By then my daughter was 9 years old. she is now 16 and I am horrified that she has started a relationship...

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stay or leave ?

posted Mon 19, Dec 2011 at 6:13pm

My partner and I have not been getting on for ages and we decided earler in the year to stay in the same house and live separate lives . I think it is working for him but it is driving me mad a...

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my boyfreinds ex is trying to take the children

posted Fri 17, Feb 2012 at 9:56am

hi my boyfreind has two little boys and his ex is trying to take the kids from him. When they split up the ex left my boyfreind with the children and has not had contact with them. she has suddenly...

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Worried About My Son Being Taken On Holiday

posted Sun 26, Feb 2012 at 10:15pm

Hello, I am hoping for some guidance - have just joined this site after reading some of the advice given to others and it seems very helpful. My ex and myself split up before I found out I was pr...

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Dad is trying to turn our child against me

posted Mon 12, Mar 2012 at 1:35pm

I have been separated from my chids dad for about three years and I have always let him have her on a regular basis, but the past year he has been saying some horrible things to our 7 year old girl...

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Boyfriend going through Divorce...what do we do?

posted Mon 27, Feb 2012 at 2:04pm

My new boyfriend is going through a divource, but his other half is being troublesome. No they have no children involved as they are grown up and married themselves. Should he mention our intention...

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Parent alienation

posted Mon 24, Oct 2016 at 2:53pm

HI there I'm hoping you can help with a situation I have regarding my daughter and my fiancee My daughter is four and lives with her mother in another part of he country. I see my daughter eve...

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Parent alienation

posted Mon 24, Oct 2016 at 2:53pm

HI there I'm hoping you can help with a situation I have regarding my daughter and my fiancee My daughter is four and lives with her mother in another part of he country. I see my daughter eve...

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Documentary to represent The Modern Family

posted Wed 2, Nov 2016 at 12:02pm

Hi, We are an award-winning production company called, Pulse Films and we are developing a new series where we document and celebrate the modern family. And what that entails is working with pa...

Tags: family,children,newrelationship,dad,mum,kids,stepmum,divorce
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Court order to make dad schedule contact properly?

posted Wed 22, Mar 2017 at 3:42pm

Hi, new to this site. Have been separated to my ex for just under a year, we have 3 children together. He works shifts but is able to find out way in advance if he wants to, what his shift pattern ...

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Shiftworker and visiting rights

posted Wed 8, Apr 2015 at 10:50pm

Can anyone advise me on what would happen if me and my husband divorced. We are seperated at Moment and he sees them toughly 2 nights midweek and 1 full Day at weekend for 2 weeks then for not 2 w...

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Really need some advice... opinions appreciated

posted Sun 13, Jan 2013 at 2:38am

Hi, I hope you guys can help clear my mind and help me decide and feel right about my decision, so any opinions are welcome. Here goes.... I am a 40 yo father of two (7 & 12). My marriage/ relatio...

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Fiancés CSA payments and paying towards his girls

posted Fri 4, Apr 2014 at 1:20am

My fiancé is currently out of work and as such his CSA payments have stopped, as I earn a high wage he has no entitlement to any financial help such as JSA. His ex wife is constantly berating us a...

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What should I tell my son?

posted Wed 21, Mar 2012 at 10:11pm

Hi, A week ago my wife dropped the bombshell that she was not happy anymore after 6 years of marriage (11 years together). I never saw this coming and have never prepared for what to do if it d...

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Looking for (informal) advice about mortgages

posted Sun 26, Jan 2014 at 11:54am

Hi, I'm interested in any experience/stories on how other separated couples have dealt with mortgages on more than one property after separation. Not seeking legally-binding advice here, just an...

Tags: mortgage
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Ex refusing me access to our son but is staying with violent partner

posted Sun 23, Mar 2014 at 4:30pm

Sorry, this might read like War and Peace but I thought all info would be needed! My ex found out she was pregnant after we had split up. We were never married and I stay with my mum, dad, brothe...

Tags: abuse,access,violence
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