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Daughter won't see me

posted Tue 25, Apr 2017 at 7:21pm

Hi all. I have recently been granted a court order which I am very happy with and in the end entitles me to half of everything like school holidays,xmas,weekends etc. I hadn't seen my kids for a wh...

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Telling the Kids...where to start if at all...yet!

posted Tue 25, Apr 2017 at 10:38am

My wife and I are in the first few months of separation. Our 2 children are 1 and 4. Up until now we have told them that Daddy is away a lot with work. I see them on Tuesday after work and do tea t...

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Can I see my kids without contact of there mother?

posted Thu 20, Apr 2017 at 7:24am

I've been seperated from my kids mother for 5 years. I arranged to see my kids, now 8 and 5 twice a week, or one night per week. Things were and stil are never easy with contact. Recently she sent...

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Can I see my kids without contact of there mother?

posted Thu 20, Apr 2017 at 12:31am

I've been seperated from my kids mother for 5 years. I arranged to see my kids, now 8 and 5 twice a week, or one night per week. Things were and stil are never easy with contact. Recently she sent...

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Breach of court order / paternal grandparent's rights

posted Wed 19, Apr 2017 at 5:55pm

I've tried to see if there's a similar case to this but haven't seen one so grateful for any professional advice. I'm the non resident parent We have a contact order in place as follows 1 x we...

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Parents not in agreement

posted Tue 18, Apr 2017 at 7:08pm

Hi, I have a friend who is 18y, she is going to have a baby in a few months and she does not want to register the baby in the father's name because the relationship they have is unbearable and t...

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Introduction to paternal family

posted Tue 11, Apr 2017 at 7:16pm

Hi, Advice appreciated please. I am looking to slowly introduce my 6 year old daughter to my paternal family who did not know about her for that long - i kept it from them and have finally to...

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I am freaking out - should I be?

posted Sat 1, Apr 2017 at 4:36am

I have been divorced for 6-7 months. My son just told me the ex's bf of 2.5 months is sleeping in the same bed as him and his mom. I am freaking out, how do I bring this up to her - this is cert...

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Breach of court order - 11 year old refusing contact - is this breaching the court order?

posted Tue 28, Mar 2017 at 3:33pm

Hi.. I'm not sure where to begin. I divorced 6 years ago (ex went bankrupt leaving me with debts). My ex took me to court as he wanted the boys to live with him full time. He got contact, where I...

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URGENT HELP------Breech In Court order ( contact & documents delivery )

posted Mon 27, Mar 2017 at 8:26am

Hi All, March 2016 court decided ( never agreed mutually ) children ( both boys now 11 & 7 ) contact with me alternate weekends, 50% holidays & Hague countries from 1st Jan 2017. My ex gave me chi...

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Ex partner won't speak to to me directly about teenage daughter

posted Fri 28, Oct 2011 at 10:12am

My ex and I separated five years ago now and my daughter is now 14 and he is still doing my head in - he will never speak directly to me which is fine when its just sorting out arrangements ...but...

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fathers right

posted Tue 29, May 2012 at 7:34pm

hi, my x said she is going to change the kids names to hers as we have nva been married, now a can only get the kids every other wk/end due to my financal situation as a had a PCL operation last ye...

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fed up !

posted Wed 2, Nov 2011 at 6:12pm

My partner sees the kids ( 9 and 7) every Wednesday 5.00 -6.30 and every other Saturday 9.00 -6.00pm . he is ALWAYS late and turned up today at 5.30pm ! The kids are hungry and he has kept the...

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How do I get started?

posted Fri 9, Dec 2011 at 1:15pm

We have been married for 8 years and have 2 children, aged 4 and 2 years. We have always had a stormy relationship here I have been the noisy angry one and my husband has just walked away and lef...

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What can I do.

posted Tue 13, Dec 2011 at 8:40am

I was married to a violent man for 10 years before I got the help I needed to separate. By then my daughter was 9 years old. she is now 16 and I am horrified that she has started a relationship...

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stay or leave ?

posted Mon 19, Dec 2011 at 6:13pm

My partner and I have not been getting on for ages and we decided earler in the year to stay in the same house and live separate lives . I think it is working for him but it is driving me mad a...

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my boyfreinds ex is trying to take the children

posted Fri 17, Feb 2012 at 9:56am

hi my boyfreind has two little boys and his ex is trying to take the kids from him. When they split up the ex left my boyfreind with the children and has not had contact with them. she has suddenly...

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Worried About My Son Being Taken On Holiday

posted Sun 26, Feb 2012 at 10:15pm

Hello, I am hoping for some guidance - have just joined this site after reading some of the advice given to others and it seems very helpful. My ex and myself split up before I found out I was pr...

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Dad is trying to turn our child against me

posted Mon 12, Mar 2012 at 1:35pm

I have been separated from my chids dad for about three years and I have always let him have her on a regular basis, but the past year he has been saying some horrible things to our 7 year old girl...

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Boyfriend going through Divorce...what do we do?

posted Mon 27, Feb 2012 at 2:04pm

My new boyfriend is going through a divource, but his other half is being troublesome. No they have no children involved as they are grown up and married themselves. Should he mention our intention...

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Help, Information & advice

posted Tue 26, Apr 2016 at 1:10pm

I used this charities services recently for a family court matter concerning my daughter. I couldn't afford a solicitor and they we're extremely helpful, thought i'd drop by with a recommendation t...

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seperation 5 weeks ago

posted Mon 9, May 2016 at 10:41pm

I separated from my husband 5 weeks ago. We have been married for 10 years. I asked him to leave as I couldn't take the arguing anymore and was worried about my children. We have two girls age 9...

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Video Games and Pizza

posted Sat 18, Jun 2016 at 10:40pm

This is the current situation: It's summer and my boy is on holiday from school. Mom and I, dad, have been separated since he was born. She chooses not to work and has an older son 19, not by ...

Tags: separation,video games,no video games,parenting time,situation,difficult,toys,style,parenting,mom,dad,child,boy
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How long is a weekend?

posted Sun 26, Jun 2016 at 12:11am

My husband and I have decided to separate after many unhappy years together. During our marriage he has rarely spent much time at home and when he is at home he does not spend his time with us. I ...

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Any help at all please

posted Wed 6, Jul 2016 at 2:34pm

My ex took me to court over our child in April he had been out of our child's life for 9 months the judge give him contact centre for 1 hour every fortnight for 30 pound and also a referral fee of ...

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is asking to see children more often beneficial for their routine?

posted Sun 9, Oct 2016 at 7:16pm

hi i currently see my 3 children friday to sunday and also a day during week, i have asked their mother to maybe having another day during week and longer on weekends (currently home at 4pm sunday)...

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court order

posted Sun 9, Oct 2016 at 8:18pm

My ex took me to court a couple months ago, he was to see her a Saturday one weekend and bring her back Sunday, and the next weekend a Friday and a Saturday (over nights) and while he had her only ...

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New partners but strange situation

posted Mon 10, Oct 2016 at 2:25pm

My daughter left her husband over 2 years ago after developing a new relationship. She & her ex have 2 children aged 7 & 5 & share parenting. My daughter is now in her new relationship but about a ...

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Breach of contact order

posted Mon 17, Oct 2016 at 2:25pm

Hi, My ex and I have a 6 year old and we split up 5 years ago. He was a fab dad and we remained great friends. He then met someone else and ditched our boy. I went to CMS so he took me to court ...

Tags: contact order,breach,Christmas
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Newborn contact

posted Tue 18, Oct 2016 at 9:48am

Hello all My partner and I are expecting our first child in one month. We have been partners for over two years, but only moved in together three months ago. Since moving in together our r...

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