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parental rights

posted Mon 26, Jun 2017 at 2:59pm

Hi, my ex partner has kept various parts of our children's lives from me over the 7 years since we split. The latest issue is allowing our 15 year old daughter to go on the pill without my knowledg...

Tags: parental rights,father's rights
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After Separation

Help and advice please

posted Fri 23, Jun 2017 at 3:28pm

Hi Myself and partner have just agreed to split, ( 14 + years together,) as we cannot reconcile following my ex-partner being unfaithful We have 2 great kids aged 5 and 3. My eldest has noti...

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Separating , After Separation

Domestic violence- getting it right for the children

posted Thu 22, Jun 2017 at 4:16pm

Hello Can any mods tell me for what reason Getting it right for the children is not ok to use in cases with domestic abuse? Thanks

Tags: Domestic abuse,domestic violence,getting it right for the children
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Mending relationships

posted Tue 20, Jun 2017 at 4:16pm

Hi! I have a tough situation. I am a step mom. My step daughter is 7 now, and I have been present for 5 years. My husband and her mom were never married. It was an "oops what are we going to do" si...

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what to tell your children when having a break

posted Tue 20, Jun 2017 at 4:02am

Hi! I'm new here and I have a question. My husband wants time off from our marriage, we have two children 6 and 8 (girls), he tells me he still loves me but he wants to clear his mind. Do I tell my...

Tags: separation,trial separation,time off
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Discharge of non molestation order

posted Sat 17, Jun 2017 at 3:05pm

Hi I'm just wondering if anyone can help, these things always happen on a weekend when I can't speak to my dv support worker! So I've had a non mol in place for the last 12 months and it was succes...

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Daughter is angry

posted Sun 11, Jun 2017 at 11:48am

My daughter has turned very nasty against me as her father has been discussing the court details with her. I get punched and kicked she was never like this before. Is there anyway I can help her?

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Template Personal Statement - #2 stage court order

posted Sat 10, Jun 2017 at 1:51pm

Hello I am writing a statement for the court as the 'applicant / petioner' for child contact arrangements. Anyone know of a template they can recommend to work from? The court tell me ther...

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Partner Moved

posted Wed 7, Jun 2017 at 3:24pm

My partner has moved our child an hour and 20 minutes away from me to move in with her new partner and now insists I drive all of the way for both drop offs and pickups. Just wanted peoples th...

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Seeing my partners kids

posted Wed 7, Jun 2017 at 1:21pm

I've been with my partner for 3 years now and his ex has always stopped me from seeing his kids. We now have a child together and I'm trying to move things forward but the kids apparently say they ...

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Ex partner won't speak to to me directly about teenage daughter

posted Fri 28, Oct 2011 at 10:12am

My ex and I separated five years ago now and my daughter is now 14 and he is still doing my head in - he will never speak directly to me which is fine when its just sorting out arrangements ...but...

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fathers right

posted Tue 29, May 2012 at 7:34pm

hi, my x said she is going to change the kids names to hers as we have nva been married, now a can only get the kids every other wk/end due to my financal situation as a had a PCL operation last ye...

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After Separation

fed up !

posted Wed 2, Nov 2011 at 6:12pm

My partner sees the kids ( 9 and 7) every Wednesday 5.00 -6.30 and every other Saturday 9.00 -6.00pm . he is ALWAYS late and turned up today at 5.30pm ! The kids are hungry and he has kept the...

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How do I get started?

posted Fri 9, Dec 2011 at 1:15pm

We have been married for 8 years and have 2 children, aged 4 and 2 years. We have always had a stormy relationship here I have been the noisy angry one and my husband has just walked away and lef...

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What can I do.

posted Tue 13, Dec 2011 at 8:40am

I was married to a violent man for 10 years before I got the help I needed to separate. By then my daughter was 9 years old. she is now 16 and I am horrified that she has started a relationship...

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stay or leave ?

posted Mon 19, Dec 2011 at 6:13pm

My partner and I have not been getting on for ages and we decided earler in the year to stay in the same house and live separate lives . I think it is working for him but it is driving me mad a...

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my boyfreinds ex is trying to take the children

posted Fri 17, Feb 2012 at 9:56am

hi my boyfreind has two little boys and his ex is trying to take the kids from him. When they split up the ex left my boyfreind with the children and has not had contact with them. she has suddenly...

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Worried About My Son Being Taken On Holiday

posted Sun 26, Feb 2012 at 10:15pm

Hello, I am hoping for some guidance - have just joined this site after reading some of the advice given to others and it seems very helpful. My ex and myself split up before I found out I was pr...

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Dad is trying to turn our child against me

posted Mon 12, Mar 2012 at 1:35pm

I have been separated from my chids dad for about three years and I have always let him have her on a regular basis, but the past year he has been saying some horrible things to our 7 year old girl...

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Boyfriend going through Divorce...what do we do?

posted Mon 27, Feb 2012 at 2:04pm

My new boyfriend is going through a divource, but his other half is being troublesome. No they have no children involved as they are grown up and married themselves. Should he mention our intention...

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Child wants to stay less with ex in holidays because of change in circumstances

posted Fri 18, Dec 2015 at 10:30pm

My son (nearly 8 but mature emotionally) has had regular Sat-Sun overnight contact evey other weekend with his father plus extra in the holidays (up to 2-3 days extra tacked on regular weekends) ev...

Tags: Ex,new partner,new living arrangements,contact time,child's wishes
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DNA issues

posted Wed 25, Sep 2013 at 1:16pm

my ex wasn't paying maintenance so i went to the CSA. In order to avoid maintenance he told them our youngest daughter wasn't his. I and she offered to participate in a DNA test which he refused. T...

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plans to move in with new partner

posted Wed 14, Aug 2013 at 8:18pm

hello, new to this and looking for some advice. I am beginning to proceed with divorce. We are looking at sharing 50/50 the care of our daughter. this is the current arrangement and i see no nee...

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How to represent myself in court against an alcoholic gambling ex.

posted Thu 28, Nov 2013 at 12:50am

Hi, i was wondering if anyone could help me, i'm in court on monday afternoon for the 2nd time and although an application for legal aid has been in since september, a decision has still not been m...

Tags: Court,self-representation,ex,alcoholic,safeguarding
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After Separation

Going to court

posted Wed 9, Apr 2014 at 11:48am

My ex and I are going to court on Monday for the first time to come to some sort of contact arrangement. We live an hour and a half away from each other and is wanting our 4 year old daughter to s...

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False allegations

posted Mon 22, Jun 2015 at 2:04pm

I am and have always been a hands on father. Taking time off work to attend doctors and even hospital appointments. I have a very close bond to my two children, a two and a four year old (boys). ...

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Separating , After Separation

Awaiting a residence court hearing

posted Sun 14, Feb 2016 at 3:18pm

My ex-husband and i separated 10 years ago, despite up's and downs of the past, for the best part of 5 years we have been extremely amicable, for the sake of our two daughters. This was until sept...

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Christmas contact arrangements

posted Wed 21, Nov 2012 at 4:49pm

Hi all, i need some advice and opinions regarding christmas contact. I have a 4 year old and an 18month old boys. My ex and i seperated 2 years ago after i found out (6months pregnant) he had been ...

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After Separation

I need advice can anyone help?

posted Thu 28, Feb 2013 at 10:02pm

My ex partner is applying to the court to see if he can get me to change my sons surname i dont have legal aid and at the moment he hasnt got parental responsibility but he is also applying for tha...

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My partners ex is causing problems!!

posted Wed 12, Sep 2012 at 3:15pm

I met my partner 2 years ago, and from day 1, I knew he was going to be a father, however from day 1, the ex was causing him problems. We had only been together a few weeks, spending every moment w...

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