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Daughter won't see me

posted Tue 25, Apr 2017 at 7:21pm

Hi all. I have recently been granted a court order which I am very happy with and in the end entitles me to half of everything like school holidays,xmas,weekends etc. I hadn't seen my kids for a wh...

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Telling the Kids...where to start if at all...yet!

posted Tue 25, Apr 2017 at 10:38am

My wife and I are in the first few months of separation. Our 2 children are 1 and 4. Up until now we have told them that Daddy is away a lot with work. I see them on Tuesday after work and do tea t...

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Can I see my kids without contact of there mother?

posted Thu 20, Apr 2017 at 7:24am

I've been seperated from my kids mother for 5 years. I arranged to see my kids, now 8 and 5 twice a week, or one night per week. Things were and stil are never easy with contact. Recently she sent...

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Can I see my kids without contact of there mother?

posted Thu 20, Apr 2017 at 12:31am

I've been seperated from my kids mother for 5 years. I arranged to see my kids, now 8 and 5 twice a week, or one night per week. Things were and stil are never easy with contact. Recently she sent...

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Breach of court order / paternal grandparent's rights

posted Wed 19, Apr 2017 at 5:55pm

I've tried to see if there's a similar case to this but haven't seen one so grateful for any professional advice. I'm the non resident parent We have a contact order in place as follows 1 x we...

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Parents not in agreement

posted Tue 18, Apr 2017 at 7:08pm

Hi, I have a friend who is 18y, she is going to have a baby in a few months and she does not want to register the baby in the father's name because the relationship they have is unbearable and t...

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Introduction to paternal family

posted Tue 11, Apr 2017 at 7:16pm

Hi, Advice appreciated please. I am looking to slowly introduce my 6 year old daughter to my paternal family who did not know about her for that long - i kept it from them and have finally to...

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I am freaking out - should I be?

posted Sat 1, Apr 2017 at 4:36am

I have been divorced for 6-7 months. My son just told me the ex's bf of 2.5 months is sleeping in the same bed as him and his mom. I am freaking out, how do I bring this up to her - this is cert...

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Breach of court order - 11 year old refusing contact - is this breaching the court order?

posted Tue 28, Mar 2017 at 3:33pm

Hi.. I'm not sure where to begin. I divorced 6 years ago (ex went bankrupt leaving me with debts). My ex took me to court as he wanted the boys to live with him full time. He got contact, where I...

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URGENT HELP------Breech In Court order ( contact & documents delivery )

posted Mon 27, Mar 2017 at 8:26am

Hi All, March 2016 court decided ( never agreed mutually ) children ( both boys now 11 & 7 ) contact with me alternate weekends, 50% holidays & Hague countries from 1st Jan 2017. My ex gave me chi...

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Ex partner won't speak to to me directly about teenage daughter

posted Fri 28, Oct 2011 at 10:12am

My ex and I separated five years ago now and my daughter is now 14 and he is still doing my head in - he will never speak directly to me which is fine when its just sorting out arrangements ...but...

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fathers right

posted Tue 29, May 2012 at 7:34pm

hi, my x said she is going to change the kids names to hers as we have nva been married, now a can only get the kids every other wk/end due to my financal situation as a had a PCL operation last ye...

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fed up !

posted Wed 2, Nov 2011 at 6:12pm

My partner sees the kids ( 9 and 7) every Wednesday 5.00 -6.30 and every other Saturday 9.00 -6.00pm . he is ALWAYS late and turned up today at 5.30pm ! The kids are hungry and he has kept the...

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How do I get started?

posted Fri 9, Dec 2011 at 1:15pm

We have been married for 8 years and have 2 children, aged 4 and 2 years. We have always had a stormy relationship here I have been the noisy angry one and my husband has just walked away and lef...

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What can I do.

posted Tue 13, Dec 2011 at 8:40am

I was married to a violent man for 10 years before I got the help I needed to separate. By then my daughter was 9 years old. she is now 16 and I am horrified that she has started a relationship...

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stay or leave ?

posted Mon 19, Dec 2011 at 6:13pm

My partner and I have not been getting on for ages and we decided earler in the year to stay in the same house and live separate lives . I think it is working for him but it is driving me mad a...

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my boyfreinds ex is trying to take the children

posted Fri 17, Feb 2012 at 9:56am

hi my boyfreind has two little boys and his ex is trying to take the kids from him. When they split up the ex left my boyfreind with the children and has not had contact with them. she has suddenly...

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Worried About My Son Being Taken On Holiday

posted Sun 26, Feb 2012 at 10:15pm

Hello, I am hoping for some guidance - have just joined this site after reading some of the advice given to others and it seems very helpful. My ex and myself split up before I found out I was pr...

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Dad is trying to turn our child against me

posted Mon 12, Mar 2012 at 1:35pm

I have been separated from my chids dad for about three years and I have always let him have her on a regular basis, but the past year he has been saying some horrible things to our 7 year old girl...

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Boyfriend going through Divorce...what do we do?

posted Mon 27, Feb 2012 at 2:04pm

My new boyfriend is going through a divource, but his other half is being troublesome. No they have no children involved as they are grown up and married themselves. Should he mention our intention...

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Child wants to stay less with ex in holidays because of change in circumstances

posted Fri 18, Dec 2015 at 10:30pm

My son (nearly 8 but mature emotionally) has had regular Sat-Sun overnight contact evey other weekend with his father plus extra in the holidays (up to 2-3 days extra tacked on regular weekends) ev...

Tags: Ex,new partner,new living arrangements,contact time,child's wishes
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DNA issues

posted Wed 25, Sep 2013 at 1:16pm

my ex wasn't paying maintenance so i went to the CSA. In order to avoid maintenance he told them our youngest daughter wasn't his. I and she offered to participate in a DNA test which he refused. T...

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plans to move in with new partner

posted Wed 14, Aug 2013 at 8:18pm

hello, new to this and looking for some advice. I am beginning to proceed with divorce. We are looking at sharing 50/50 the care of our daughter. this is the current arrangement and i see no nee...

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How to represent myself in court against an alcoholic gambling ex.

posted Thu 28, Nov 2013 at 12:50am

Hi, i was wondering if anyone could help me, i'm in court on monday afternoon for the 2nd time and although an application for legal aid has been in since september, a decision has still not been m...

Tags: Court,self-representation,ex,alcoholic,safeguarding
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Going to court

posted Wed 9, Apr 2014 at 11:48am

My ex and I are going to court on Monday for the first time to come to some sort of contact arrangement. We live an hour and a half away from each other and is wanting our 4 year old daughter to s...

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False allegations

posted Mon 22, Jun 2015 at 2:04pm

I am and have always been a hands on father. Taking time off work to attend doctors and even hospital appointments. I have a very close bond to my two children, a two and a four year old (boys). ...

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Awaiting a residence court hearing

posted Sun 14, Feb 2016 at 3:18pm

My ex-husband and i separated 10 years ago, despite up's and downs of the past, for the best part of 5 years we have been extremely amicable, for the sake of our two daughters. This was until sept...

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Christmas contact arrangements

posted Wed 21, Nov 2012 at 4:49pm

Hi all, i need some advice and opinions regarding christmas contact. I have a 4 year old and an 18month old boys. My ex and i seperated 2 years ago after i found out (6months pregnant) he had been ...

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I need advice can anyone help?

posted Thu 28, Feb 2013 at 10:02pm

My ex partner is applying to the court to see if he can get me to change my sons surname i dont have legal aid and at the moment he hasnt got parental responsibility but he is also applying for tha...

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My partners ex is causing problems!!

posted Wed 12, Sep 2012 at 3:15pm

I met my partner 2 years ago, and from day 1, I knew he was going to be a father, however from day 1, the ex was causing him problems. We had only been together a few weeks, spending every moment w...

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