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This forum is for visitors seeking advice and support from the community in relation to but not limited to parents and couples going through the process of separation or who have already separated; and parents wishing to develop a positive parenting relationship after separation. The forum is looked after by community managers to keep conversations positive and constructive, make users aware of resources and protect them from abusive comments or invasions of privacy. 

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This site, cafcass and the system against fairness and equal parenting

posted Thu 23, Feb 2017 at 9:51am

Good Morning, I am brand new to this site and already see the same issue pop up with wanting fair and equal access to my daughter. Why are men treated differently and why is there prejudices aga...

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Advice needed

posted Wed 22, Feb 2017 at 11:15am

Hi I have been separated from my partner since August. I still get to see my kids at least 3 times a week which I'm happy with. I do not understand why I have to pay my ex money each month if she o...

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After Separation

Help needed

posted Mon 20, Feb 2017 at 10:49pm

I have a agreed contact order with my ex to see my 4 boys on weekends 1 week full weekend next half but I've been having them every weekend but last week I needed to take my step dad to airport so ...

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After Separation

Co parenting on different continents with abusive ex

posted Mon 20, Feb 2017 at 7:01pm

Hi there, I have not used one of these forums before but I want to sound out my situation as I am at a loss for professionals that can advise me on my very tricky situation. I live in the U...

Tags: separation,abusive,different countries
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After Separation

What the hell do we say

posted Fri 17, Feb 2017 at 8:38am

Hi, So a bit of advice is needed. I found out last week that my wife has been unfaithful. We have been a bit distant for a while and decided to go to counciling in January. I actually feel this ...

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Separating

What are my fathers rights?

posted Thu 16, Feb 2017 at 4:11pm

I have in the last 6 months separated from my partner. We split up and moved apart. Our son is 5 years old. Art start I was allowed to see him on the weekends. Recently my ex partner ha...

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After Separation

I really just want someone to tell me what to do...

posted Mon 13, Feb 2017 at 5:38pm

I'm so sorry for the long post. If you read it all you deserve a medal! I just don't want to go over it in sections and although its a narrative, without it there would be obvious questions. I've ...

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Moving away from child

posted Sun 12, Feb 2017 at 11:38pm

Hello to any and all reading. I'm really hoping that I can get some advice or people's opinions on this. My ex partner (originally from the UK) lived in South Africa about 9 years ago. We had fa...

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Separating , After Separation

Grandparent Contact Order

posted Thu 9, Feb 2017 at 10:36am

Hi, The paternal grandfather to my grandson has obtained a court order that allows him supervised contact for 2 hours every 6 weeks. We have had one visit so far and my grandson was very upset a...

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Overnight stays

posted Mon 6, Feb 2017 at 1:29pm

Hi in need of advice My little boys dad has recently moved in to a bedsit it is full of single men my sons dad has said he want him to stay over night there. I have said I don't think it's suita...

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After Separation

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Ex partner won't speak to to me directly about teenage daughter

posted Fri 28, Oct 2011 at 10:12am

My ex and I separated five years ago now and my daughter is now 14 and he is still doing my head in - he will never speak directly to me which is fine when its just sorting out arrangements ...but...

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After Separation

fathers right

posted Tue 29, May 2012 at 7:34pm

hi, my x said she is going to change the kids names to hers as we have nva been married, now a can only get the kids every other wk/end due to my financal situation as a had a PCL operation last ye...

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After Separation

fed up !

posted Wed 2, Nov 2011 at 6:12pm

My partner sees the kids ( 9 and 7) every Wednesday 5.00 -6.30 and every other Saturday 9.00 -6.00pm . he is ALWAYS late and turned up today at 5.30pm ! The kids are hungry and he has kept the...

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How do I get started?

posted Fri 9, Dec 2011 at 1:15pm

We have been married for 8 years and have 2 children, aged 4 and 2 years. We have always had a stormy relationship here I have been the noisy angry one and my husband has just walked away and lef...

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Separating

What can I do.

posted Tue 13, Dec 2011 at 8:40am

I was married to a violent man for 10 years before I got the help I needed to separate. By then my daughter was 9 years old. she is now 16 and I am horrified that she has started a relationship...

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stay or leave ?

posted Mon 19, Dec 2011 at 6:13pm

My partner and I have not been getting on for ages and we decided earler in the year to stay in the same house and live separate lives . I think it is working for him but it is driving me mad a...

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my boyfreinds ex is trying to take the children

posted Fri 17, Feb 2012 at 9:56am

hi my boyfreind has two little boys and his ex is trying to take the kids from him. When they split up the ex left my boyfreind with the children and has not had contact with them. she has suddenly...

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Worried About My Son Being Taken On Holiday

posted Sun 26, Feb 2012 at 10:15pm

Hello, I am hoping for some guidance - have just joined this site after reading some of the advice given to others and it seems very helpful. My ex and myself split up before I found out I was pr...

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After Separation

Dad is trying to turn our child against me

posted Mon 12, Mar 2012 at 1:35pm

I have been separated from my chids dad for about three years and I have always let him have her on a regular basis, but the past year he has been saying some horrible things to our 7 year old girl...

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Boyfriend going through Divorce...what do we do?

posted Mon 27, Feb 2012 at 2:04pm

My new boyfriend is going through a divource, but his other half is being troublesome. No they have no children involved as they are grown up and married themselves. Should he mention our intention...

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Volunteering in child's school to increase access

posted Fri 4, Jan 2013 at 7:08pm

Hi there, My ex has suggested that in future he would like to volunteer at our daughter's school so that he could see her more. I'm not averse to the idea completely its just I don't want her to...

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Advice needed please

posted Sun 27, Oct 2013 at 3:38pm

My ex partner and I have a 3yr old son together. When my son was 1 his dad left me for a woman he was seeing behind my back. I later found out that whilst we were still in a relationship he had tak...

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After Separation

Is my contact harming my son ?

posted Wed 23, Apr 2014 at 10:57am

My ex and I have four children, my 15yr old went back to live with his dad two years ago as his relationship with my then partner was very fraught. I have many regrets about letting my son go and h...

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Grandparent Hell

posted Sun 18, Jan 2015 at 8:50am

I'm looking for some advice. I have been having a lot if problems over the past year with my mother. She had regular contact, one overnight a week for several years with my eldest, 12, but no conta...

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Single parent - help with ex

posted Mon 26, Jan 2015 at 9:10pm

My ex left us last year. I look after our 2y/o full time. He pays maintenance which we worked out using a government website. It calculated it by what he earns. It also said that this amount would ...

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After Separation

Advice ASAP please I broke court order

posted Tue 3, Feb 2015 at 3:19pm

Hi NEED HELP ASAP broken family court order . ? Me and my partner are both after full custerdy and the courts placed a order that my 11 mounts child should stay with the father 5 days and I have hi...

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My children dont want to stay at their dad's anymore

posted Tue 9, Dec 2014 at 3:02pm

Can someone please help me with advice as I really don't know what to do. My Son is 13 3/4 and my daughter is 12. They came back from their dads on Sunday and said they did not want to go and stay ...

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After Separation

Need advice asap

posted Sun 13, Mar 2016 at 3:15pm

I have 3 children to my ex. I have an agreement in place for contact, place of contact times ect. He has broken the agreement and taken my kids away several times without me knowing, he has alos ta...

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Is my daughter being used?

posted Mon 14, May 2012 at 5:39pm

Hello forum I have been separated from my wife since January and had no access to my daughter who is 2 in June. We tried counselling but my wife called time on the relationship about 3 weeks ...

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After Separation

Can I get my ex to see our children in a Family centre??

posted Mon 21, Oct 2013 at 2:34pm

Hi there.. Me and my ex husband have been split for a a year now and I've just found out he's started to take drugs.. ( weed) so as you can agree I'm worried about the safety of our children I don'...

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After Separation

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