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Contact centre increase??

posted Fri 19, May 2017 at 8:30am

I have been seeing my children in a contact centre since march. Next week is my last session there then I go onto community contact for a few sessions before my children can start coming to my home...

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After Separation

Help please

posted Wed 17, May 2017 at 10:49pm

My ex now gets to see our daughters every other weekend, they go over to his. Since the court hearing, he went on Facebook and wrote horrible things about me. I brought it to his solicitor's attent...

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After Separation

emotionally bruised after contact at the weekend.....

posted Tue 16, May 2017 at 3:02pm

Hello all, I went to the 2nd contact session ( which was some 5 weeks after the the 1st one) to see my 2 daughters at the weekend. My expectations were low as phone contact has dropped off f...

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After Separation

Does interim court order from years ago (which we have modified) still stand?

posted Sun 14, May 2017 at 10:35am

Hello, I do not feel shared care is working in my children's best interests as the level of conflict is unfortunately very high and constructive communication between us is now practically zero. We...

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After Separation

New partner with kids

posted Thu 11, May 2017 at 4:05am

Hello, I have met a lovely Englishman in Australia who came over 5 years ago with his family. They split about a year and a half later. I met him 8 months ago and because I have been a live in s...

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After Separation

help and advice needed

posted Tue 9, May 2017 at 5:24pm

My partner and i recently split acrymonously. She has started to be vindictive and very difficult. She banned me from one of the 4D scans i purchased and then reluctantly sent a poor picture - thou...

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Separating , After Separation

Telling the kids

posted Tue 2, May 2017 at 1:35pm

My husband and I decided to separate at the end of last year and have been trying to make arrangements for our new lives since then. I have eventually managed to find a place to rent and am due to...

Tags: Telling the kids,seperating
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Ex not agreeing with what he has agreed to

posted Tue 2, May 2017 at 1:05pm

Hello My ex left before our son was 2 and is marrying the person he left me for sometime this year I recently agreed that he could see our son every weekend for 4 weeks only Now he has sai...

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After Separation

Daughter won't see me

posted Tue 25, Apr 2017 at 7:21pm

Hi all. I have recently been granted a court order which I am very happy with and in the end entitles me to half of everything like school holidays,xmas,weekends etc. I hadn't seen my kids for a wh...

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After Separation

Telling the Kids...where to start if at all...yet!

posted Tue 25, Apr 2017 at 10:38am

My wife and I are in the first few months of separation. Our 2 children are 1 and 4. Up until now we have told them that Daddy is away a lot with work. I see them on Tuesday after work and do tea t...

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Separating , After Separation

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how do i tell my kids?

posted Sun 25, May 2014 at 9:10pm

Hi my im just looking for a bit of advice. Me and my husband are seperating, it was my decision to do this for many reasons I wont go into right now. We have 3 children 15,11 and 8. we decided t...

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Ex refusing me access to our son but is staying with violent partner

posted Sun 23, Mar 2014 at 4:30pm

Sorry, this might read like War and Peace but I thought all info would be needed! My ex found out she was pregnant after we had split up. We were never married and I stay with my mum, dad, brothe...

Tags: abuse,access,violence
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After Separation

Partners ex using manipulating children

posted Sat 7, Jun 2014 at 9:51am

My partners ex keeps saying the children (4 kids aged between 3-8) don't want to come to our house but not giving a reason, we've spoke to the kids and they don't have a reason either but we know s...

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After Separation

Feeling Lost After Having My Children For A Day Or Few Hours

posted Thu 25, Sep 2014 at 11:13am

Hi all, this is my first post.. I have been separated from my soon to be Ex Wife now for just over two years.. I have two boys with her, who live most of the time with their mother. I see both bo...

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After Separation

Separated - child tax credit help

posted Tue 7, Oct 2014 at 4:03pm

Hi all Me and my husband have separated last week, im moving into a new house this weekend and he's moving into his at the same time. We have an almost 2 year old together (22 months), and we are ...

Tags: tax credits,separation
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Advice on husbands actions, is this wrong?

posted Mon 20, Oct 2014 at 12:49am

My husband and I took the decision to have a separation 8 weeks ago. He moved out 6 weeks ago. Until 3 weeks ago he was asking could we maybe try again, which i was debating but needed time. Si...

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Father lives in Australia. Want to find a healthy way of split parenting.

posted Sun 26, Oct 2014 at 8:36pm

I have been with my partner for 4 years. He has always lived in Australia and I have always lived in the UK, but because of the nature of his work we see each other at least once a month in the UK....

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how to act when ex comes over xmas morning to see daughter

posted Sun 21, Dec 2014 at 2:57pm

Im really stressing myself out, we have only been seperated for 1 month, he left us just before my daughters 7th birthday and 2 days after mine, said he didnt feel anything for me anymore that ther...

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After Separation

Sepration and the homeā€¦.

posted Tue 3, Mar 2015 at 1:02pm

My husband of 17 yrs walked out last Nov. He wants to sell the family home and we have a 12 yr old child together. All our money is tied up in this home and if I stay in it with my son, my ex ca...

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After Separation

Advice

posted Sun 26, Apr 2015 at 8:46pm

Over three weeks ago my ex partner took our child from my care and has since denied me access and contact with our child can anyone help with what I should do next

Tags: Contact,access
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After Separation

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Help

posted Wed 16, Sep 2015 at 11:20pm

I asked my ex partner for flexibility regarding our agreement (none court order) at first she agreed then later denied, i have had nothing but crap off her, so wrote her a letter stating the facts ...

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After Separation

father going for residency

posted Mon 18, Aug 2014 at 9:54pm

Hi there, needing some advice I am due in court on thursday I am so nervous as cafcass have made a reccomendation she is to stay with her father, she is currently living with him has been for 8mths...

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After Separation

Very concerned for my 8 year old

posted Tue 26, Aug 2014 at 9:31am

I am concerned that my x husband has taken my daughter out of the area. I am worried about his state of mind due to his actions and behaviour after not appearing at a court hearing with HMRC. He h...

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Communication Advice

posted Thu 23, Jul 2015 at 9:37pm

I have recently been back to court and got a contact order to see my 8yr old Son at a contact centre but this has not been going well at all. The order states every other Saturday but she couldn...

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After Separation

Advice please

posted Sun 31, May 2015 at 9:11pm

In March I had to get a court order to get my children back as ex was playing games previously threatened not to bring them back. we recently had a review in court about contact with the children t...

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A complication situation..

posted Tue 3, Apr 2012 at 2:25pm

Hi all, About two and a half years ago I met a girl who was from another country in europe, but who was working in the UK. We hit it off and a little over 6 months after we met she moved into m...

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Meeting the Child - What do I do?

posted Sun 28, Oct 2012 at 8:29pm

Hello everyone, Long story short, my partner had an affair which resulted in a child. This was over a year ago. We split and go back to together a few months ago. It has now come to a tim...

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non-molestation order

posted Fri 6, Sep 2013 at 12:02am

hi I recently received a non molestation order and now worried about whats comeing next ive been to the C.A.B whose advice was to get a solicitor after ringing a few I have an appointment next week...

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CONTACT ORDER HEARING WHEN DAD ABUSED ME/SON

posted Sat 3, Aug 2013 at 10:28am

i am panicking. I recently got an app for a contact order,for my sons dad to see my 3yr old son. when h hasnt seen him for over 4mnths. An d has recently bouht himself a two-seater sports car. A 3...

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After Separation

I have no voice

posted Wed 27, Aug 2014 at 2:02am

I left my wife four years ago as I could not cope with her lies and deciet. We have two children age 9 and 7. Since we split there have been there have been many things that have happened the have ...

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