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This forum is for visitors seeking advice and support from the community in relation to but not limited to parents and couples going through the process of separation or who have already separated; and parents wishing to develop a positive parenting relationship after separation. The forum is looked after by community managers to keep conversations positive and constructive, make users aware of resources and protect them from abusive comments or invasions of privacy. 

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Co parenting on different continents with abusive ex

posted Mon 20, Feb 2017 at 7:01pm

Hi there, I have not used one of these forums before but I want to sound out my situation as I am at a loss for professionals that can advise me on my very tricky situation. I live in the U...

Tags: separation,abusive,different countries
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After Separation

What the hell do we say

posted Fri 17, Feb 2017 at 8:38am

Hi, So a bit of advice is needed. I found out last week that my wife has been unfaithful. We have been a bit distant for a while and decided to go to counciling in January. I actually feel this ...

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Separating

What are my fathers rights?

posted Thu 16, Feb 2017 at 4:11pm

I have in the last 6 months separated from my partner. We split up and moved apart. Our son is 5 years old. Art start I was allowed to see him on the weekends. Recently my ex partner ha...

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After Separation

I really just want someone to tell me what to do...

posted Mon 13, Feb 2017 at 5:38pm

I'm so sorry for the long post. If you read it all you deserve a medal! I just don't want to go over it in sections and although its a narrative, without it there would be obvious questions. I've ...

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Moving away from child

posted Sun 12, Feb 2017 at 11:38pm

Hello to any and all reading. I'm really hoping that I can get some advice or people's opinions on this. My ex partner (originally from the UK) lived in South Africa about 9 years ago. We had fa...

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Separating , After Separation

Grandparent Contact Order

posted Thu 9, Feb 2017 at 10:36am

Hi, The paternal grandfather to my grandson has obtained a court order that allows him supervised contact for 2 hours every 6 weeks. We have had one visit so far and my grandson was very upset a...

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Overnight stays

posted Mon 6, Feb 2017 at 1:29pm

Hi in need of advice My little boys dad has recently moved in to a bedsit it is full of single men my sons dad has said he want him to stay over night there. I have said I don't think it's suita...

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After Separation

Broken Court Order time and time again!

posted Thu 2, Feb 2017 at 7:53pm

Hi All, I'm new to the site and looking for some advice. I have a son who is now 10 years old. I have been separated from his mother for many years now. During the separation she stopped me from...

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After Separation

struggling to comply with court order

posted Thu 2, Feb 2017 at 2:17pm

Hi everyone, I really need some advice and real life experiences... Firstly I struggle terribly with anxiety so I may be over thinking or overly worrying but here I go.. My daughter is 4 1/2 ...

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After Separation

Advice on encouraging a relunctant toddler to go to contact with father

posted Thu 2, Feb 2017 at 10:06am

My Child is a young toddler and has to go to contact every other weekend for two nights with her biological father. She really struggles with going and cries and says she wants to stay home and doe...

Tags: contact,toddler,encourage
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After Separation

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Ex partner won't speak to to me directly about teenage daughter

posted Fri 28, Oct 2011 at 10:12am

My ex and I separated five years ago now and my daughter is now 14 and he is still doing my head in - he will never speak directly to me which is fine when its just sorting out arrangements ...but...

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After Separation

fathers right

posted Tue 29, May 2012 at 7:34pm

hi, my x said she is going to change the kids names to hers as we have nva been married, now a can only get the kids every other wk/end due to my financal situation as a had a PCL operation last ye...

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After Separation

fed up !

posted Wed 2, Nov 2011 at 6:12pm

My partner sees the kids ( 9 and 7) every Wednesday 5.00 -6.30 and every other Saturday 9.00 -6.00pm . he is ALWAYS late and turned up today at 5.30pm ! The kids are hungry and he has kept the...

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How do I get started?

posted Fri 9, Dec 2011 at 1:15pm

We have been married for 8 years and have 2 children, aged 4 and 2 years. We have always had a stormy relationship here I have been the noisy angry one and my husband has just walked away and lef...

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Separating

What can I do.

posted Tue 13, Dec 2011 at 8:40am

I was married to a violent man for 10 years before I got the help I needed to separate. By then my daughter was 9 years old. she is now 16 and I am horrified that she has started a relationship...

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stay or leave ?

posted Mon 19, Dec 2011 at 6:13pm

My partner and I have not been getting on for ages and we decided earler in the year to stay in the same house and live separate lives . I think it is working for him but it is driving me mad a...

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my boyfreinds ex is trying to take the children

posted Fri 17, Feb 2012 at 9:56am

hi my boyfreind has two little boys and his ex is trying to take the kids from him. When they split up the ex left my boyfreind with the children and has not had contact with them. she has suddenly...

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Worried About My Son Being Taken On Holiday

posted Sun 26, Feb 2012 at 10:15pm

Hello, I am hoping for some guidance - have just joined this site after reading some of the advice given to others and it seems very helpful. My ex and myself split up before I found out I was pr...

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After Separation

Dad is trying to turn our child against me

posted Mon 12, Mar 2012 at 1:35pm

I have been separated from my chids dad for about three years and I have always let him have her on a regular basis, but the past year he has been saying some horrible things to our 7 year old girl...

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After Separation

Boyfriend going through Divorce...what do we do?

posted Mon 27, Feb 2012 at 2:04pm

My new boyfriend is going through a divource, but his other half is being troublesome. No they have no children involved as they are grown up and married themselves. Should he mention our intention...

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Help

posted Wed 16, Sep 2015 at 11:20pm

I asked my ex partner for flexibility regarding our agreement (none court order) at first she agreed then later denied, i have had nothing but crap off her, so wrote her a letter stating the facts ...

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After Separation

father going for residency

posted Mon 18, Aug 2014 at 9:54pm

Hi there, needing some advice I am due in court on thursday I am so nervous as cafcass have made a reccomendation she is to stay with her father, she is currently living with him has been for 8mths...

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After Separation

Very concerned for my 8 year old

posted Tue 26, Aug 2014 at 9:31am

I am concerned that my x husband has taken my daughter out of the area. I am worried about his state of mind due to his actions and behaviour after not appearing at a court hearing with HMRC. He h...

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Advice please

posted Sun 31, May 2015 at 9:11pm

In March I had to get a court order to get my children back as ex was playing games previously threatened not to bring them back. we recently had a review in court about contact with the children t...

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A complication situation..

posted Tue 3, Apr 2012 at 2:25pm

Hi all, About two and a half years ago I met a girl who was from another country in europe, but who was working in the UK. We hit it off and a little over 6 months after we met she moved into m...

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After Separation

Meeting the Child - What do I do?

posted Sun 28, Oct 2012 at 8:29pm

Hello everyone, Long story short, my partner had an affair which resulted in a child. This was over a year ago. We split and go back to together a few months ago. It has now come to a tim...

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non-molestation order

posted Fri 6, Sep 2013 at 12:02am

hi I recently received a non molestation order and now worried about whats comeing next ive been to the C.A.B whose advice was to get a solicitor after ringing a few I have an appointment next week...

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CONTACT ORDER HEARING WHEN DAD ABUSED ME/SON

posted Sat 3, Aug 2013 at 10:28am

i am panicking. I recently got an app for a contact order,for my sons dad to see my 3yr old son. when h hasnt seen him for over 4mnths. An d has recently bouht himself a two-seater sports car. A 3...

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After Separation

I have no voice

posted Wed 27, Aug 2014 at 2:02am

I left my wife four years ago as I could not cope with her lies and deciet. We have two children age 9 and 7. Since we split there have been there have been many things that have happened the have ...

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Communication Advice

posted Thu 23, Jul 2015 at 9:37pm

I have recently been back to court and got a contact order to see my 8yr old Son at a contact centre but this has not been going well at all. The order states every other Saturday but she couldn...

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After Separation

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