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This forum is for visitors seeking advice and support from the community in relation to but not limited to parents and couples going through the process of separation or who have already separated; and parents wishing to develop a positive parenting relationship after separation. The forum is looked after by community managers to keep conversations positive and constructive, make users aware of resources and protect them from abusive comments or invasions of privacy. 

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Extra Access Help

posted Sun 8, Jan 2017 at 8:30am

Hi All, Well heres the overview for your insight...Basically my husband and his ex wife have a 7 year old daughter together and have been separated for 6 years. The mother and daughter moved back ...

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Contact order

posted Sat 7, Jan 2017 at 1:21am

My daughter of 14yrs old, contacted me after 8 years a short while ago. We have been talking frequently since and have seen her in two occasions. On the most recent occasion my daughter called me ...

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Help with child arrangements

posted Fri 6, Jan 2017 at 11:29am

Hi there, my husband of 13 years left 01/11/16. It had been awful year, there were some incidents of domestic violence and he was cautioned by the police for it in April 3016 as I wouldn't presscha...

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Struggling to stop letting ex control my life

posted Sun 1, Jan 2017 at 6:07pm

I separated from my kids dad 2years ago. It was my decision but we ended friendly. Over time it's got more and more volatile. We are now going through the court system as we can't agree on anythin...

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Daughter hero worships father who abandoned her 7 yrs ago

posted Sat 31, Dec 2016 at 10:13pm

If anybody can advise me I would be very grateful as I'm at my wits end. 7 yrs ago my then husband left me and our 2 daughters (6 & 3). He literally disappeared for several months and immediately...

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After Separation

Feeling guilty about leaving

posted Wed 28, Dec 2016 at 6:40am

My husband and I have been married for 9 years. We have a 2 and 3 year old daughterson. We have had a rocky marriage for years. He's kind of controlling. Anyways we talk about separating and I gues...

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Separating

When is best to tell the children

posted Tue 27, Dec 2016 at 5:31pm

Hi all. My husband and I have made the heart breaking decision to separate. We are still living in the same house and will possibly be in the same house until the end of January 2017. Myself and ...

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moving away from my ex

posted Tue 27, Dec 2016 at 5:00pm

hi all, just after some reassurance i am doing everything i am supposed to do in this situation... My ex cheated on me and left 4years ago leaving me with our baby. He has seen her regularly sin...

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child arrangement order

posted Mon 26, Dec 2016 at 9:43pm

My son has a child arrangement order in place for his 4yr old son. He is to live with his dad and spend weekends Friday after school until Monday morning with his mum .Also mum is menat to have him...

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Fathers Rights

posted Thu 22, Dec 2016 at 9:53pm

Hi I'm asking for a family member. As a family we're struggling to support dad of 2 as we're unaware of what rights he has when children's mum if refusing to let him spend time without her present,...

Tags: Fathers rights,parental visits,mediation
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Ex partner won't speak to to me directly about teenage daughter

posted Fri 28, Oct 2011 at 10:12am

My ex and I separated five years ago now and my daughter is now 14 and he is still doing my head in - he will never speak directly to me which is fine when its just sorting out arrangements ...but...

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fathers right

posted Tue 29, May 2012 at 7:34pm

hi, my x said she is going to change the kids names to hers as we have nva been married, now a can only get the kids every other wk/end due to my financal situation as a had a PCL operation last ye...

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After Separation

fed up !

posted Wed 2, Nov 2011 at 6:12pm

My partner sees the kids ( 9 and 7) every Wednesday 5.00 -6.30 and every other Saturday 9.00 -6.00pm . he is ALWAYS late and turned up today at 5.30pm ! The kids are hungry and he has kept the...

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How do I get started?

posted Fri 9, Dec 2011 at 1:15pm

We have been married for 8 years and have 2 children, aged 4 and 2 years. We have always had a stormy relationship here I have been the noisy angry one and my husband has just walked away and lef...

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Separating

What can I do.

posted Tue 13, Dec 2011 at 8:40am

I was married to a violent man for 10 years before I got the help I needed to separate. By then my daughter was 9 years old. she is now 16 and I am horrified that she has started a relationship...

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stay or leave ?

posted Mon 19, Dec 2011 at 6:13pm

My partner and I have not been getting on for ages and we decided earler in the year to stay in the same house and live separate lives . I think it is working for him but it is driving me mad a...

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my boyfreinds ex is trying to take the children

posted Fri 17, Feb 2012 at 9:56am

hi my boyfreind has two little boys and his ex is trying to take the kids from him. When they split up the ex left my boyfreind with the children and has not had contact with them. she has suddenly...

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Worried About My Son Being Taken On Holiday

posted Sun 26, Feb 2012 at 10:15pm

Hello, I am hoping for some guidance - have just joined this site after reading some of the advice given to others and it seems very helpful. My ex and myself split up before I found out I was pr...

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Dad is trying to turn our child against me

posted Mon 12, Mar 2012 at 1:35pm

I have been separated from my chids dad for about three years and I have always let him have her on a regular basis, but the past year he has been saying some horrible things to our 7 year old girl...

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Boyfriend going through Divorce...what do we do?

posted Mon 27, Feb 2012 at 2:04pm

My new boyfriend is going through a divource, but his other half is being troublesome. No they have no children involved as they are grown up and married themselves. Should he mention our intention...

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Help

posted Wed 16, Sep 2015 at 11:20pm

I asked my ex partner for flexibility regarding our agreement (none court order) at first she agreed then later denied, i have had nothing but crap off her, so wrote her a letter stating the facts ...

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father going for residency

posted Mon 18, Aug 2014 at 9:54pm

Hi there, needing some advice I am due in court on thursday I am so nervous as cafcass have made a reccomendation she is to stay with her father, she is currently living with him has been for 8mths...

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Very concerned for my 8 year old

posted Tue 26, Aug 2014 at 9:31am

I am concerned that my x husband has taken my daughter out of the area. I am worried about his state of mind due to his actions and behaviour after not appearing at a court hearing with HMRC. He h...

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Advice please

posted Sun 31, May 2015 at 9:11pm

In March I had to get a court order to get my children back as ex was playing games previously threatened not to bring them back. we recently had a review in court about contact with the children t...

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A complication situation..

posted Tue 3, Apr 2012 at 2:25pm

Hi all, About two and a half years ago I met a girl who was from another country in europe, but who was working in the UK. We hit it off and a little over 6 months after we met she moved into m...

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Meeting the Child - What do I do?

posted Sun 28, Oct 2012 at 8:29pm

Hello everyone, Long story short, my partner had an affair which resulted in a child. This was over a year ago. We split and go back to together a few months ago. It has now come to a tim...

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non-molestation order

posted Fri 6, Sep 2013 at 12:02am

hi I recently received a non molestation order and now worried about whats comeing next ive been to the C.A.B whose advice was to get a solicitor after ringing a few I have an appointment next week...

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CONTACT ORDER HEARING WHEN DAD ABUSED ME/SON

posted Sat 3, Aug 2013 at 10:28am

i am panicking. I recently got an app for a contact order,for my sons dad to see my 3yr old son. when h hasnt seen him for over 4mnths. An d has recently bouht himself a two-seater sports car. A 3...

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I have no voice

posted Wed 27, Aug 2014 at 2:02am

I left my wife four years ago as I could not cope with her lies and deciet. We have two children age 9 and 7. Since we split there have been there have been many things that have happened the have ...

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Communication Advice

posted Thu 23, Jul 2015 at 9:37pm

I have recently been back to court and got a contact order to see my 8yr old Son at a contact centre but this has not been going well at all. The order states every other Saturday but she couldn...

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