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    ex wont talk to our daughter

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      hi can you expand on this a bit more and tell me what you would like help with

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      hi can you expand on this a bit more and tell me what you would like help with

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      • Pc Jamie Flag

        Hi , that is tough for your daughter and tough for you to look on . She clearly wants him in her life . thought this article might be of interest http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/family-mediation. Are you able to intervene on her behalf and explain to him how difficult it is for her ?I suppose all you can do is be seen to try and support their relationship but he needs to take responsibilty too and of he chooses not to , you focus on being the best mum you can possibly be. Why not post on the forum as there may be others out there who have gone through similar that may offer some other advice ?

        Tue 27, Mar 2012 at 7:02pm
      • User-anonymous sarahjc Flag

        Basically het dad got his visiting dates wrong, when he asked her to choose (which he should never have done) she chose to be with me. He then hung the phone up after telling her he won't speak to or see her again! I don't know what to say to her, she keeps asking for him and to call him, which he ignores, even when she sends him a text he ignores it and he totally blanked her when we drove passed (yes he did see her) I keep telling her he is busy and working. It's been a month, what happens if he decides he wants to see her again I'n a few months time when she has settled and got used to life without him??

        Mon 26, Mar 2012 at 9:23pm
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      hi can you expand on this a bit more and tell me what you would like help with

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    I do not want my children to see my ex husbands new partner

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      just been through this my little one is 4 and found out he told me he was getting a place on his own but he now has his partner living there. I stopped him letting her sleep as he was not honest with me and demanded to see the girlfriend or I would not allow it. He lives in a one bedroom place to.
      I saw the girlfriend it was hard but did not want a stranger in the house or sleeping in the same place. I now have really put my foot down and made rules so he understands what I expect and now he listens and IT IS STILL HARD but made me feel more at ease.

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      It can be v upsetting thinking about your children spending time with your ex's gf. The questions you have to ask yourself are: will it harm the children if they do? How harmful to the children is a big falling out between you and their dad over this?
      I guess you have questions you want to ask your ex about this - for tips on how to have a difficult conversation click on the Programmes tab on the home page. Or ...have you thought about giving mediation a try?

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    after been separated for three years my son refuses to see his dad

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      How old is your son ? My son does not see his dad and hasn't for a few years (he is now 13), my daughter (8) sees dad although is increasingly saying that she doesn't want to go. I insist that she goes because I think she should have a relationship with her dad and there is a court order in place. However, if there wasn't a court order and she was saying she didn't want to go, I would invite her dad to sit with me and talk with her so that the parents can do what is best for the child. Sometimes children want to see that there parents are ok with each other. Unfortunately me ex refuses to communicate with me in any way so this is not able to happen in our household.

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      That must be worrying for you. Would you like to say more about your situation by posting on the Forum? You will get support from lots more people there.

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      • User-anonymous Sinead Flag

        That's really tough...particularly if your daughter is now getting upset too. However, you and your ex seem to be doing your best to accommodate him. I wonder if it's anything to do with coming into puberty and all the body changes etc that brings with it. Who does he gravitate towards most when he is feeling vulnerable? I remember my son had issues to do with not growing as fast as his peers at that age. Your children sound well loved by both of you and as you know that's what matters.

        Fri 30, May 2014 at 4:21pm
      • User-anonymous stella5 Flag

        My son is 10 and daughter 8, contact has always been consistent since the separation every other weekend and extra in school holidays. I have a mainly civil relationship with my ex but it has been difficult at times. We both have new long term partners who the children seem to like. My son has gone through different stages of not wanting to go but I have always insisted on it until recently when he was getting very upset about going and begging me to stay at home. I agreed he cpuld chose when he wanted to go. He now refuses to go on most occasions and his dad has been trying to make changes. I have spoke to his school teacher and she has tried to talk to him but he wont give any valid reason for not going just saying he his unhappy. I have tried encouragement and not doing anything fun when he should be at his dad but nothing is working. It is upsetting my daughter and I now dont know what to do for the best for my children
        Any advice would be very welcome thanks

        Thu 15, May 2014 at 9:41pm
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    My ex lives in the US. Left me when pregnant. Now wants his son to holiday in the US where he doesn't know anybody, without me. He is 11m

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      Do you think you could go as well given your son is so young? What do you fear, that he may try and keep your son in the US?

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      You might want to consider if he knows your sons routine and that they are familiar enough with each other to allow this to happen .

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    I have found out Lucy not mine by blood but i am on birth certificate and have been there every day for 6 yrs it do i have rights

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      What a blow for you. The way I'd look at it is from Lucy's point of view. What would she want?

      Do use the forum if you would like more support.

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      not sure on the legal position on this but if you a re named on the birth certificate that gives you parental responsibility . his article may help http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/fathers-legal-rights-and-responsibilities.
      sounds as if you have been a big part of the child's life . Is there a chance you could be excluded now? might be worth posting on the forum as others can often help .

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    Don't have PR as my kid's mum refused to give it. The mum is now gravely ill and made her dad my kid's guardian. I want PR..what can I do?

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      They will take into account reasons for applying for the order so you should have a strong case. They will also look at the strength of commitment of the father and the attachment between father and child

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      You can apply to court to get parental responsibility - see link for details: http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/fathers-legal-rights-and-responsibilities
      What a very difficult situation for you - I hope you get sorted out.

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    I live in my partners house with my 2 children, he says the relationship is ended and wants us out. Where do I start to sort this out?

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      Hi, I'd put your comment on the forum as many more people will see your question there. I agree with the other comments about advice. Also, does this article help at all? http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/managing-a-long-break-up-parent-connection.

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      It's hard to say without more information about your circumstances. I would suggest that you go on to the forum as you'll get much more help. Is the housing situation your main worry? It would be useful to have more info - How long have you lived together and how old area the children? Is the house rented or owned by your partner? Whatever the answers I suppose that you need to find out what your housing options are for if you move out. Start with your local housing dept. the CAB would also be helpful. It might be worth getting some legal advice too. In the meantime go to the Forum. It is such a big worry when this happens but there is lots of support for you . Hope we hear from you soon.

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      • User-anonymous lelc Flag

        The children are 5 and 10, the house is owned by partner and I've lived there 3 years.
        Partner has brain tumor recently had meds changed. My family live 200 miles away, do I disrupt the children s schooling and move closer to family or stay local thinking its meds and condition which is making partner want us out? can i suspend my school placement here and temporarily put the children in school local to family until I'm sure of where would be best to live, does moving in with parents hinder my chance of my own place??

        Mon 20, May 2013 at 9:30pm

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