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    Can i stop my ex partners new partner seeing my daughter if I feel she is at risk?

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      You sound very concerned about your daughter...maybe you should post on the forum with more information about what is making you afraid for your daughter's welfare....so that you can get a clearer response.

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      • User-anonymous Laura_jane100 Flag

        Thankyou have posted a post :-)

        Fri 18, Apr 2014 at 10:48pm
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    is the court order in uk for father to see his adult children as they were minors? My partner has two children, both of them are over 18

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      court orders generally do not apply to young adults over 18

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      • User-anonymous mishade Flag

        Thank you for your wise and comforting words. I am trying to be strong as my partner deserve all the best in his life. He is such a wonderful man and devoted father. He is also a true gentleman. No matter what his ex will come up with it, no matter how much she tries to make our life hard, he never retailated in the same way. I truly admire him for that. You are right in saying that the sad, twisted ex will no succeed in breaking us off. Her spiteful, venomous campaign bonded us some how stronger.Her manipulations and hatred just back fired!
        I will wait a bit longer as my partner is worth it. Thank you again!!! xx

        Fri 4, Apr 2014 at 10:26pm
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    I do not want my children to see my ex husbands new partner

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      just been through this my little one is 4 and found out he told me he was getting a place on his own but he now has his partner living there. I stopped him letting her sleep as he was not honest with me and demanded to see the girlfriend or I would not allow it. He lives in a one bedroom place to.
      I saw the girlfriend it was hard but did not want a stranger in the house or sleeping in the same place. I now have really put my foot down and made rules so he understands what I expect and now he listens and IT IS STILL HARD but made me feel more at ease.

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      It can be v upsetting thinking about your children spending time with your ex's gf. The questions you have to ask yourself are: will it harm the children if they do? How harmful to the children is a big falling out between you and their dad over this?
      I guess you have questions you want to ask your ex about this - for tips on how to have a difficult conversation click on the Programmes tab on the home page. Or ...have you thought about giving mediation a try?

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    Ex got our 2 year old after spending weekend with me. New boyfriend threatened me & was arrested. She's now refusing me access. Now what?

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      Sorry to hear about this. Can you tell us more about your situation using the Forum?
      In the meantime, these articles might get you started. http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/how-to-manage-disagreements
      http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/resolving-disputes-advice-and-support-from-a-lawyer-slash-mediators-perspective

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    can my boyfriends ex stop him and his son spending time with me and my son?

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      It sounds like a very straightforward question...however, as you probably realise it is not easy to answer. Ideally you would work together with his ex to do the best for both children ...but what you consider to be the best is obviously different from her opinion. It could be that the best option for all of you is that your boyfriend and his ex attend mediation sessions to work out how they are going to co parent their son...and contact arrangements etc. it can be hard to negotiate with ex's when feelings run high, mediation helps by having a trained facilitator manage the situation.Why not post on the forum with more information so that others in your situation can respond with their experience.

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    Why is ex being so bitter and nasty when she cheated and left?

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      I guess none of us can get inside her head to know what she is thinking , What is happening that makes you think she is bitter and nasty?. When in dispute , we always think the other person is the unreasonable one ! . why don't you use the listening room from 9.00 -10.00pm or use the forum and explain your situation a bit more and you may be able to get some support .

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      • Pc Bern Flag

        That's tough. How are you and your son coping?

        Mon 10, Mar 2014 at 11:54am
      • Pc Bern Flag

        Maybe she still has issues about your relationship when you were still together. Or maybe you haven't sorted out the finances yet that's causing conflict. Why not use the Forum to tell us more about what you're having to deal with?

        Sun 9, Mar 2014 at 5:15pm
      • User-anonymous clarky12 Flag

        no she is bitter, bad mouths me to sons school sends police out to me cause she saw me at the school when im collecting my son, and a lot off other stuff

        Tue 4, Mar 2014 at 8:28pm
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    I .m looking to find out what state benefits I.m entitled to If any

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      Go to this website - http://www.entitledto.co.uk/ It's easy to use and will give you all you need to know. Hope that helps.

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      • User-anonymous Sinead Flag

        I wonder what has happened to cause you to need to find out what benefits you are entitled to? If you want some feedback from others about your situation why not post more details on the forum. Others in similar situations might be able to help.

        Fri 28, Feb 2014 at 4:17pm
      • Pc Jamie Flag

        have you tried talking to citizens advice or welfare benefits local office ?

        Tue 18, Feb 2014 at 4:26pm
      • User-anonymous saoirsemc Flag

        I.m still unsure I.ve tried that but haven't all my money details ie tax or net and gross I.m looking for an average amount payable thanks

        Sun 16, Feb 2014 at 6:02pm

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    I split with my partner a month after our baby was born. She is now threatening to move to another country. Do i have any rights?

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      What I know is that a lot depends on whether or not you have 'Parental Responsibility' - you will have it if you are/were married to your ex or your name is on your child's birth certificate and she/he was born after 3 December 2003. In which case, your child cannot be taken to live abroad without your consent or an order from the court.
      So, that's the short answer.
      If you want to look into it further, the terms to look up are 'Parental Responsibility' and 'Removal From the Jurisdiction' - check out the web site for the organisation, 'Liberty'

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      • Dandelion_pic elli Flag

        If you’re very concerned this might happen without any discussion you can apply to court for a Prohibited Steps Order – this is an order that your child can’t be taken “out of the jurisdiction” without your permission. You applying doesn’t necessarily mean the court will decide to make this order, they’ll need to weigh up what’s in the best interests of the child. If possible perhaps try to discuss it with your ex first – what would the move mean, how would your ex ensure you continued a relationship with your baby. Try to get information in a constructive way to help you decide what to do.

        Wed 14, Mar 2012 at 8:30am
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    i split with my sons father 6 months ago, he cheated on me, hes threatening to take me to court over our son, hes a canabis addict

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      Hi Charlie,
      Do you want your son to be able to see his Dad at all? You may be able to avoid being taken to court if you can reach an agreement with your ex about when and how this, 'contact', can happen. (You don't have to agree to any arrangement that you don't think is safe for your son.) You may want to consider asking your ex to take part in mediation. There is more information about mediation on this site - try this link, for instance: http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/options-for-resolving-disagreements-about-the-children
      If you do go to court, it's unlikely the judge will agree that there shouldn't be any contact at all but will want to ensure that it takes place in the right setting.
      Hope this is helpful,

      jaybee

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    I\'v recently fond out that my sons father has shown violent behavioral towards his ex girlfriend and is taken cannabis around my son.

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      You need to make sure your son is safe . starting pont is to check out if the information you have is reliable . can you speak to your ex? you need to consider the amount of contact your ex has and if it supervised by another reliable adult . you might want to use our forum and give some more information so you can have support from the community

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      • User-anonymous thehaylz Flag

        i'v spoke to him he has insisted its not true but refused a drug test iv stopped over night access but he has him during the day instead he is now going to take me back to court for joint custody. He seems to think that taking cannabis doesn't matter i;m unsure, my personal opinion is that drugs and looking after kids is unacceptable.

        Sun 25, Mar 2012 at 11:05pm
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    what can a father do if his child is abroad with mother but has been refused any contact and there are real safety concerns for the child?

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      Is the country part of the Hague Convention?

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      • User-anonymous poiuy12 Flag

        Not as far as I know. Both mother and child are in South Asia. Parents got divorced and now there is no contact despite numerous attempts by father.

        Thu 22, Mar 2012 at 9:47pm
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    Thinking of trying mediation?. Ex will not let me take daughter out the house alone,and locks me in for unjustied fear i will take her ?

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      mediation may well be worth a try and help you both build trust in each other . you might find this article useful http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/family-mediation

      you can find a service through http://www.nfm.org.uk/

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    I split up with the father of my two children, 5 months on i want to start new life 3hrs away with work. can i? He only sees them once week

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      It would really help if you could get your ex on side with your decision. For example, have you got a good reason to move? Have you thought thru how it will affect his bond with the children? What suggestions do you plan to put forward to him to make sure that the children don't miss out on their dad and his side of their family?
      If he wanted to prevent the move he'd have to have a v strong case but the more you can do to ensure that there will be a practical plan in place for contact to happen, the more likely he'll work with you to get round the difficulties.

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    Where do single mothers stand on living out of the country long term?

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      might need a bit more information . are you planning to take your chidlren abroad to live . Is their father involved in their life and would he agree to the move ?

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      • Pc chas Flag

        You should definately get his consent before you go or an order of the court. If you are going to a country where the Hague Convention applies he could potentially make an application in that country for your child's return to the UK as that is the country of 'habitual residence'. For more information look at the Reunite website or ring their helpline

        Tue 10, Apr 2012 at 9:36am
      • User-anonymous super_mummy2012 Flag

        Yes planning to take my daughter with me. Me and her father split back in novermber 2008 and I now have a military partner. And we plan to get married etc and his due to leave in a few years.
        My daughter father and I are already currently fight courts for a didnt reason so he only sees her a few times a month and the moment and he defo would not agree with the plans for my daughter to leave with us. though me and my currently partner have spoken about options that we will give the ex. I.e we would pay for his flight ticket once a year so he can come out and visit her and I would also fly home to the uk once of twice a year for both sides of the families to see my daughter.
        I strongly believe me and my daughter will have a far better live as we are happy and settled as a family how we are now.

        Tue 3, Apr 2012 at 9:41pm

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