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Spending Christmas Alone - after separation

Tags: Christmas, spending time alone, after separation
Content Types: Moving Forward
Categories: After Separation


Dreading Christmas Alone?

Whether it is your first Christmas after separating or you are just feeling down about being alone this Christmas is here to help you beat the holiday blues.

Christmas can be a tough time after separation but there are things you can do to make the holidays a little less stressful.

It’s all about shifting your way of thinking –

We’ve put together a few thoughts and ideas to help you, not just get through Christmas, but to move forward with your life.

  • Begin by accepting that it okay to feel sad some of the time – putting on a permanent happy face is exhausting- it makes your cheeks ache. So if this is your first Christmas alone, try and be okay with the sadness, it’s all part of the healing process.
  • Don’t suffer in silence – or be too proud. Lean on family and friends. It’s okay to let them know that you’d like to spend time with them because you would rather not be alone. Or invite them to your home and lay on a celebration. Or make a complete change and help others who are alone at Christmas, maybe volunteer for a local charity. This can be one of the best ways of getting the lonely feelings in perspective.
  • Think about where you are right now and see all the changes you’ve already made. But be kind to yourself – it is brave making big life changes, and you now know that you have that strength. Even if this Christmas is hard try and look ahead; each year will bring new things and every Christmas will get a little easier.
  • The New Year is just around the corner. Time off work over Christmas and the New Year is a good time to reflect on the past year and ask yourself whether there are things you can do to take life in a new direction. Don’t be scared of taking a few chances.
Starting a new life can be exciting, especially when you relax and allow yourself to enjoy the changes. So take a few risks and see how good it can feel.
  • Most importantly keep in mind that the Christmas break is only short – so pamper yourself, visit some friends and take advantage of the chance to do some things you wouldn’t usually have time for. Enjoy the change of routine. Christmas carries huge expectations so instead of letting things get out of proportion remember that before long, things will be back to normal. 
  • Use the Christmas break as a way of setting the foundations for a new beginning – however small. Make up your mind that in 2013 you are going to try doing things differently in your life and your relationships.


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