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Can I see my kids without contact of there mother?

Posted by: Anonymous
Wed 19, Apr 2017 at 11:31pm

I've been seperated from my kids mother for 5 years. I arranged to see my kids, now 8 and 5 twice a week, or one night per week.
Things were and stil are never easy with contact. Recently she sent me and my partner abusive messages. I'm sick of it and my partner can't take anymore.
I've had the police involved but that doesn't seem to have worked.
I've thought of how I can see the kids less but for longer periods I can't imagine what it would be like for them though.
I work on a 7week fixed roster with only 2 weekends off, what would the outcome in court be if I tried to have them for 3 or 4 nights in a row every 7 weeks.
Ive tried mediation twice now I know I have 3 months until I can apply for court.
Court takes ages. Is there any other methods anybody can recommend?
Is there any way of contact where I don't have to speak directly to my ex??
A middle guy who passes on the message and when there's abuse just pass it back no.
Please help me. I miss my kids and I can't think what they must be going through!

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  • Pc jaybee (moderator) Flag

    Sorry it's been such a long time since you posted your enquiry. I'm wondering how things are for you now? Have you made a decision about going to court?
    With such a busy work schedule, it may make a lot of sense to be thinking along the lines you are, maybe focussing on school holiday times, especially if your employer can be a bit flexible over this.
    As for what a court might say, generally courts are happy with whatever plans parents come up with that they can both agree about. So, you might want to run your thoughts past your ex, by letter or email if talking is difficult.
    Alternatively, you might want to look at the link that I've inserted below and see if it's something you and your ex can participate in:

    Tue 9, May 2017 at 9:03am