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Can I see my kids without contact of there mother?

Posted by: Anonymous
Thu 20, Apr 2017 at 6:24am

I've been seperated from my kids mother for 5 years. I arranged to see my kids, now 8 and 5 twice a week, or one night per week.
Things were and stil are never easy with contact. Recently she sent me and my partner abusive messages. I'm sick of it and my partner can't take anymore.
I've had the police involved but that doesn't seem to have worked.
I've thought of how I can see the kids less but for longer periods I can't imagine what it would be like for them though.
I work on a 7week fixed roster with only 2 weekends off, what would the outcome in court be if I tried to have them for 3 or 4 nights in a row every 7 weeks.
Ive tried mediation twice now I know I have 3 months until I can apply for court.
Court takes ages. Is there any other methods anybody can recommend?
Is there any way of contact where I don't have to speak directly to my ex??
A middle guy who passes on the message and when there's abuse just pass it back no.
Please help me. I miss my kids and I can't think what they must be going through!

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  • Pc jaybee (moderator) Flag

    I'm sorry to hear what things are like between you and your kids. You're right, it must be hard for them that the dust hasn't settled after all this time. But at least you've hung in there and stuck with it.
    Through mediation, or however, have you and your ex ever spoken about the children having longer stays with you, such as during school holidays? If you have, her response might give you a clue about how she might feel about them having longer visits with you routinely.
    If its something you and she can come to an agreement about, the court will go along with it. The good thing about agreeing something is that once it's in place, you don't have to have too much to do with each other. But a situation where you don't have to speak each other at all? That may be a bit wishful.
    Can you say a bit more about why there would be a delay over you applying to the court?

    Fri 21, Apr 2017 at 1:59pm