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Have no idea.

Posted by: Anonymous
Sat 12, Aug 2017 at 8:42am
After Separation

First. My ex has been seeing our daughter. Every monday and thursday 6-7.30 pm and every other sat 12-6pm. Until last week he kicked my car would not let me leave once i have picked her up because he was mad because his own mum had dropped her to him fifteen minutes late.i called the police and is logged. So ive stopped contact as ive now found out hes smoking weed and his own mum is advising him to go to the doctors so sort his mental state out. One minute she is on my side the next she is not. Basically saying she will supervise his visits and makig me feel if i want to go down the legal route that it would be pointless. Im now stuck what to do. I want a possible contact centre. But i rang social services tk get some advise and they have said stop contact but no helo from them. My hv said to stop. The police has advised me too. But now im being mad out as the control freak by his mum too.. helppp!!!

My head is saying if hes not right mentally then its my daughter's best interest not to visit until he is. But obviosuly im beig made out to be the bad one?

Am i?

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  • Pc jaybee (moderator) Flag

    Hi, thanks for your post. I hope I can help a bit. You'll see an alteration to your post to remove your daughter's name. Sorry about that but it's recommended that no real names are used on this forum. By the way, how old is your daughter?
    As people closer to the actual event than I am have recommended that contact should stop, then I'm sure that's good advice and it sounds like you agree with them. As I understand it, your problem is how to deal with the hostility that you're getting from your ex's family. Of course her father's family are angry, but that's not your fault. It is well known that children suffer emotional harm by being present when one or other of their parents is being abused or mis-treated. Even if she is very young your daughter will be concerned for your safety (she depends on you to stay well and un-injured don't forget!) So, it's important that you protect yourself and you protect her from being exposed to conflict and possible violence.
    You're right to put your child's safety first.

    Sat 12, Aug 2017 at 1:14pm