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Husband breaching contact order

Posted by: Anonymous
Tue 8, May 2018 at 11:25pm
After Separation

Dear all

Going through child court and after first hearing it was ordered indirect contact (Skype) fir dad whilst S7 reports completed. I'd become aware that he and daughter (13) had bumped into each other just before hearing and he'd basically groomed her by giving her £30. She initially lied about seeing him and cried tears and said he'd driven past her!. I guessed they'd jumped into each other as she came home making out of left field comments about me making things up about dad and putting them into court documents.

I'm aware that he has met up secretly with our daughter who's 13 after the order was in place. Whilst in court fir another issue he said that kids call him to meet up.

He's emotionally abusive and has targeted our daughter for years and attempts to alienate her and has had some success. I know he will be coaching her and grooming ahead of the S7 reports as to what to say. My daughter denies they swapped phone numbers but I'm aware they have. He's been convicted for breaches of RO and has drugs convictions.

What can I do?. I'm petrified hell coach and manipulate our daughter to say bad stuff about me to cafcass, lie and I've no doubt she'd do it due to his parentifucation of her and she feels she needs to rescue him and support him.

Please help.

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  • Pc jaybee (moderator) Flag

    You sound very worried; I'm wondering what the safety issues might be in your case?
    At the end of the day, the court will want to ascertain your daughter's wishes and, as far as possible, accommodate those so long as it is safe to do so. I'm guessing there is at least a part of your daughter that wants to be able to see her dad and it's clearly not in her interests that she keeps this a secret from you. It doesn't look as though a total ban on them seeing each other will work.
    Can you and she come to some sort of agreement with each other about what will meet her need for a relationship with him so that you can affirm this in what you say to the court? Then, hopefully, you can support her in having a relationship with him that works best for her and keeps her safe.

    Tue 15, May 2018 at 11:18am