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interim child arrangment order breaches please help!

Posted by: Anonymous
Wed 12, Jul 2017 at 12:11am

my ex is an alcholic and i am a victim of domestic violance.

I have raised concerns with Grand mother who supervises contact with my ex wife. communication has broken down between us.

The concerns raised with Grandmother with whom i am to liaise as part of the child arrangement order were:-

the ex took son out of event hall we all attended (me one side of the room and her the other) on 2 occasions on her own. Grand mother allowed this to happen. I did not cause a scene at the event but was a breach of the order stating all contact must be supervised by grandparents.

my daughter has said that my ex had been drinking alcohol in the bedroom in her presence during contact a few days ago. which is a breach of the order to.

My Daughter also told me that grandmother was told that the ex was consuming alcohol. Daughter said that grandmother confirmed to her that she was aware of this consumption and that you had in fact spoken to my ex about it. This was also a breach of the order.

Grandmother made arrangements with daughter regarding contact that i did not consent to during the daughters lunch time. The school notified me that they also had no understanding of why this contact was necessary. This was another breach

The response from grandmother from my messages was that I was harassing her so therefore i am unable to liaise with her and until these safe guarding issues are answered I would not like any further contact or exposure for the children. will i get into trouble? can you get an interim order changed. I really want to stop contact but don't know if i can?

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  • Pc jaybee (moderator) Flag

    Thank you for your post.
    I'm wondering if your ex's mother's feelings of harassment come as a result of her feeling 'caught in the middle' between you and her daughter. It's very unfortunate that you and she are now not able to communicate with each other. This may be because she is feeling that she has bitten off more than she bargained for when she agreed to help in this way. It's very understandable that grandparents want to do all they can to help in these situations but then struggle to stay neutral in the dispute between the parents.
    Nevertheless, it sounds like you're building up quite a list of concerns about what's going on when your children have visits with their mum. You're right to take them seriously as it sounds like they are arising quite soon after these arrangements were put in place.
    The good news is that they are 'interim' which, I'm guessing, means they will be reviewed by a court at some stage. Do you have a date for that? If you feel that is too far into the future you might consider contacting the court, or your lawyer if you have one, and asking about the date being brought forward.
    Let me know what you think.

    Thu 13, Jul 2017 at 9:20am