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my boyfreinds ex is trying to take the children

Posted by: Anonymous
Fri 17, Feb 2012 at 9:56am
Separating , After Separation

hi my boyfreind has two little boys and his ex is trying to take the kids from him. When they split up the ex left my boyfreind with the children and has not had contact with them. she has suddenly started legal proceedings to take the children off him claiming he is a violent which is infact totally the opposite she was abusive during their relationship. Does anybody know what his rights are as he has looked after them for months and she is very difficult?

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  • Pc jaybee (moderator) Flag

    If your boy friend's ex were to just take the children from him, against his wishes, then this would not be looked on very favourably by any judge considering the case, especially if, as you say, they have not had any contact with their mum for some time.
    There aren't 'rights' for parents in this situation, as such. The guiding principle is 'what's best for the children?' and the best way of deciding that is, if possible, by parents coming to their own, shared decision about what might work best for their children.
    If feelings are running high, it might be difficult for them to agree something without help. That's where mediation comes in and I would really recommend that you encourage your boyfriend to get in touch with his local mediation service.
    There are a few articles on this site dealing with this topic. Here's a link to one of them:

    Fri 17, Feb 2012 at 6:52pm