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parental rights

Posted by: Anonymous
Mon 26, Jun 2017 at 1:59pm
After Separation
parental rights,father's rights

Hi, my ex partner has kept various parts of our children's lives from me over the 7 years since we split. The latest issue is allowing our 15 year old daughter to go on the pill without my knowledge and allowing her to sleep with her boyfriend at the mother's house without previously discussing this with myself.

My question is what rights, if any, do I have as a father to expect to be involved in these discussions and what can I do if I am excluded?

Many thanks

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  • Pc jaybee (moderator) Flag

    Thank you for your post. My experience is that there are no 'rules' in place about at what level parents remain involved with decisions about their children after they have separated, beyond some quite specific things like change of name and moving abroad. So much depends on how well parents have been able to continue to 'co-parent' after separation.
    Realistically, I imagine it's unlikely that you could 'turn the clock back' over this particular decision. However, it might be a starting point for a conversation between you and your ex and/or between you and your daughter about how you might approach important issues in the future. I'm sure it's a shock to be made aware of your daughter becoming an adult woman in this way but I would urge you to think about how or if this would have been different if you and your ex were still together?
    If you're able to have a calm, thoughtful discussion about how this decision came about, you may find that it was the best one under the circumstances.

    Wed 28, Jun 2017 at 8:23am