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Progressing contact

Posted by: Anonymous
Mon 8, Jan 2018 at 4:41pm
After Separation

Hi there,
My partner's going through court to gain access to his child. He sees his child through supported contact at a contact centre, which is all going really well.

He's due back in court soon and would like to go prepared with an ideal schedule of building contact away from the centre. He’d also like to add a weekly mid-week overnight stay in for the future, but he's worried that this may be too disruptive for her? Would you agree?

Are there any suggestions on how judges would generally build contact- how frequent that should be, a structured pattern etc?

Thank you.

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  • Pc jaybee (moderator) Flag

    Hi, it's good to hear that your partner seems to be approaching this very thoughtfully and going along with the court's advice so far.
    Judges are generally very open to ideas from parents about how things might move ahead, especially if these are ideas that both parents agree on. But, of course, he's free to put his own suggestions forward, see how these are received and be prepared to be flexible.
    Have your partner and his ex had any help from a mediation service? This is something that they might consider in the hope that they can come to some joint decisions about how to progress things - those are more likely to 'stick' than ones where one party feels that something has been imposed on them.

    Wed 10, Jan 2018 at 10:48am