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Telling the kids

User-anonymous
Posted by: Anonymous
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Tue 2, May 2017 at 12:35pm
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Separating
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Telling the kids,seperating

My husband and I decided to separate at the end of last year and have been trying to make arrangements for our new lives since then. I have eventually managed to find a place to rent and am due to pick up the keys in just over a week. Therefore we have decided that now is the right time to tell our girls about our separation (7 and 10).

I am dreading it and am so nervous about how they will react. Even though it is for the best I still feel as though I am ruining their world.

Has anyone got any advice on how to make this as simple for them as possible. Thankfully their Dad and I are still on good terms and dealing with things in a amicable manner.

Many thanks

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  • Pc jaybee (moderator) Flag

    It's really good that you've got in touch at this early stage and it's also great that you and your husband are on good terms. This will be the most helpful thing for your children as you go through the process of separating. Your feelings of anxiety about your children's response is very understandable. Do you think it will come out of the blue for them or do you think they might have some inkling of what's about to happen? You may find it's not as much of a shock to them as you were expecting.
    Here's a link to an article on this site that you might find useful:
    http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/children-and-separation-a-guide-for-parents-parent-connection
    Let us know what you think. As you go through the next few weeks and months, you may find there is other information here that is helpful to you, such as the section 'Children in the Middle' and more articles under 'Tips and Advice'.
    Let us know if you have further questions.
    All the best

    Tue 2, May 2017 at 3:28pm
  • User-anonymous Author Flag

    Thank you. I have found the articles on this site really helpful.

    Tue 2, May 2017 at 3:50pm
  • Pc jaybee (moderator) Flag

    Thank you for your feed back. Let us know if we can help in any other way.

    Fri 5, May 2017 at 11:29am