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Working late issues

Posted by: Anonymous
Wed 6, Sep 2017 at 5:36pm
After Separation

Hi, I have my children 6 nights out of 14 and three full weeks per year (in my work holidays) I also pay the maintenance I should as per the website. Unfortunately on "my" nights I cannot pick up the three children until half past 7 as my working day is 11:00 until 19:00. My ex is constantly on at me because of this and the fact she has to also feed them but is there anything legally I can do to stop the moaning. She also is threatening to "drop the kids off" at my work or to my house (so my partner would have to have them early). I obviously can't start my night with them (or my partner when they aren't there) until half past 7 when I finish work. Any deflecting arguments gratefully received. Many thanks

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  • Pc jaybee (moderator) Flag

    Thank you for your post.
    This doesn't sound like an issue for which there would be a 'legal' remedy. Several ideas occur to me.
    Is spending time with your partner before you get home out of the question? It sounds like the children's mother is favourable towards this (where many parents in her position might not be!)
    It sounds like she may feel resentful of the encroachment into time to herself if the children still around into the evening when she may be looking forward to some time off.
    Otherwise, might a bit of money towards the cost of the 'extra' meals be welcome?
    Only a few ideas but I hope they are helpful.

    Fri 8, Sep 2017 at 7:40am
  • User-anonymous mouse1968 Flag

    Thanks so much for taking time to reply. I do give her extra "food" money, yes. My partner doesn't really want to look after my children when I'm not around as she has two of her own to spend time with and I think keeping 5 entertained is alot to ask...

    Sounds like there's not much either of us can do unless my hours change then!

    Thanks again. WLD

    Fri 8, Sep 2017 at 3:57pm