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This forum is for visitors seeking advice and support from the community in relation to but not limited to parents and couples going through the process of separation or who have already separated; and parents wishing to develop a positive parenting relationship after separation. The forum is looked after by community managers to keep conversations positive and constructive, make users aware of resources and protect them from abusive comments or invasions of privacy. 

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Breach of order and mental abuse

posted Fri 22, Sep 2017 at 7:00am

Hi there I have a court order for contact with my children that was made in December last year. It was a slow process contact centre then onto community contact then home visits to progress to alt...

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50/50 custody?

posted Tue 19, Sep 2017 at 9:25am

Hello, my ex insists on 50/50 custody of our son, he also insists on everyother weekend and Wednesdays to be included. As he wont take him to his swimming lessons I need to have him every Tuesday...

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I'm so confused

posted Sat 16, Sep 2017 at 8:35pm

I've never posted in a forum and I'm afraid I'm going to drone on! Hi, I'm probably going to drone on so many apologies!! I've never done this before but I really have no idea on what is fair acc...

Tags: Divorce,access,advice
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My dad is moving out, Help I can't understand him.Divorce Bullshit:(

posted Sat 16, Sep 2017 at 8:26pm

My dad has a secound house & keeps on saying he is going to move out & leave our family after the tenants finish rent. I think he is doing that to frighten me because he does not want me to move ou...

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Secondary School dictates residence

posted Sat 16, Sep 2017 at 6:13am

Me and my ex have been separated since my daughter was 6 months old. its been a rocky old road but after I took her to court in 2012 its been settled (prior to this I would get texts stating that i...

Tags: secondary school,decision
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Programmes - Getting it Right for the Children

posted Fri 15, Sep 2017 at 6:13pm

Hi. I've been trying to load the 5 video clips for quite some time now but they're not loading. Any help, please?

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Alone mother and housing benefit

posted Fri 15, Sep 2017 at 6:41am

Hi everyone. I am looking forsupport and some informatorom from you as i am very stressed nów and not sure what to do. I broke up with my partner around three years ago. We have two young childre...

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Telephone Contact During separation.

posted Wed 13, Sep 2017 at 2:20am

User-anonymous Posted by: Anonymous (me) Flag Wed 13, Sep 2017 at 1:40am Categories: After Separation I am currently separated and have been involved with the court system for nearly 2 years. ...

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Where do I stand

posted Mon 11, Sep 2017 at 11:08am

Today,my wife and I have agreed that it is best we separate. There will be an amount of issues to deal with. We have 2 young children. When we separate, being the male, it will be me leaving the fa...

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Working late issues

posted Wed 6, Sep 2017 at 5:36pm

Hi, I have my children 6 nights out of 14 and three full weeks per year (in my work holidays) I also pay the maintenance I should as per the gov.uk website. Unfortunately on "my" nights I cannot pi...

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Ex partner won't speak to to me directly about teenage daughter

posted Fri 28, Oct 2011 at 9:12am

My ex and I separated five years ago now and my daughter is now 14 and he is still doing my head in - he will never speak directly to me which is fine when its just sorting out arrangements ...but...

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fed up !

posted Wed 2, Nov 2011 at 6:12pm

My partner sees the kids ( 9 and 7) every Wednesday 5.00 -6.30 and every other Saturday 9.00 -6.00pm . he is ALWAYS late and turned up today at 5.30pm ! The kids are hungry and he has kept the...

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How do I get started?

posted Fri 9, Dec 2011 at 1:15pm

We have been married for 8 years and have 2 children, aged 4 and 2 years. We have always had a stormy relationship here I have been the noisy angry one and my husband has just walked away and lef...

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What can I do.

posted Tue 13, Dec 2011 at 8:40am

I was married to a violent man for 10 years before I got the help I needed to separate. By then my daughter was 9 years old. she is now 16 and I am horrified that she has started a relationship...

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stay or leave ?

posted Mon 19, Dec 2011 at 6:13pm

My partner and I have not been getting on for ages and we decided earler in the year to stay in the same house and live separate lives . I think it is working for him but it is driving me mad a...

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my boyfreinds ex is trying to take the children

posted Fri 17, Feb 2012 at 9:56am

hi my boyfreind has two little boys and his ex is trying to take the kids from him. When they split up the ex left my boyfreind with the children and has not had contact with them. she has suddenly...

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Worried About My Son Being Taken On Holiday

posted Sun 26, Feb 2012 at 10:15pm

Hello, I am hoping for some guidance - have just joined this site after reading some of the advice given to others and it seems very helpful. My ex and myself split up before I found out I was pr...

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Boyfriend going through Divorce...what do we do?

posted Mon 27, Feb 2012 at 2:04pm

My new boyfriend is going through a divource, but his other half is being troublesome. No they have no children involved as they are grown up and married themselves. Should he mention our intention...

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Dad is trying to turn our child against me

posted Mon 12, Mar 2012 at 1:35pm

I have been separated from my chids dad for about three years and I have always let him have her on a regular basis, but the past year he has been saying some horrible things to our 7 year old girl...

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exercising rights to access a child in uk

posted Sun 8, Apr 2012 at 6:22pm

hi there i am married to a British national . with this marriage i have a son. after 3 years of marriage the relation is not working out well as he came to UK with our son alone and left me in P...

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Volunteering in child's school to increase access

posted Fri 4, Jan 2013 at 7:08pm

Hi there, My ex has suggested that in future he would like to volunteer at our daughter's school so that he could see her more. I'm not averse to the idea completely its just I don't want her to...

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Advice needed please

posted Sun 27, Oct 2013 at 3:38pm

My ex partner and I have a 3yr old son together. When my son was 1 his dad left me for a woman he was seeing behind my back. I later found out that whilst we were still in a relationship he had tak...

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Is my contact harming my son ?

posted Wed 23, Apr 2014 at 9:57am

My ex and I have four children, my 15yr old went back to live with his dad two years ago as his relationship with my then partner was very fraught. I have many regrets about letting my son go and h...

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My children dont want to stay at their dad's anymore

posted Tue 9, Dec 2014 at 3:02pm

Can someone please help me with advice as I really don't know what to do. My Son is 13 3/4 and my daughter is 12. They came back from their dads on Sunday and said they did not want to go and stay ...

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Grandparent Hell

posted Sun 18, Jan 2015 at 8:50am

I'm looking for some advice. I have been having a lot if problems over the past year with my mother. She had regular contact, one overnight a week for several years with my eldest, 12, but no conta...

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Single parent - help with ex

posted Mon 26, Jan 2015 at 9:10pm

My ex left us last year. I look after our 2y/o full time. He pays maintenance which we worked out using a government website. It calculated it by what he earns. It also said that this amount would ...

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Advice ASAP please I broke court order

posted Tue 3, Feb 2015 at 3:19pm

Hi NEED HELP ASAP broken family court order . ? Me and my partner are both after full custerdy and the courts placed a order that my 11 mounts child should stay with the father 5 days and I have hi...

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Need advice asap

posted Sun 13, Mar 2016 at 3:15pm

I have 3 children to my ex. I have an agreement in place for contact, place of contact times ect. He has broken the agreement and taken my kids away several times without me knowing, he has alos ta...

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Is my daughter being used?

posted Mon 14, May 2012 at 4:39pm

Hello forum I have been separated from my wife since January and had no access to my daughter who is 2 in June. We tried counselling but my wife called time on the relationship about 3 weeks ...

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Can I get my ex to see our children in a Family centre??

posted Mon 21, Oct 2013 at 1:34pm

Hi there.. Me and my ex husband have been split for a a year now and I've just found out he's started to take drugs.. ( weed) so as you can agree I'm worried about the safety of our children I don'...

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