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How do you ever accept your ex's new boyfriend when your child is involved?

posted Wed 16, Aug 2017 at 3:31am

This is going to be a long post, so thank you in advance to anybody who reads it all.im having an extremely hard time. Im the father of a beautiful little girl, shes not quite 2 yrs old yet but ...

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? Unrecognised mental health issue or just changed his mind

posted Tue 15, Aug 2017 at 11:39am

I need some help/advice on ways to manage a recent separation from a marriage of 16 years where I think he has undiagnosed depression. Complete behaviour change in the last 12 months, and almost un...

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Access to a parent who has a prescription drug issue.

posted Sun 13, Aug 2017 at 7:44am

Hi, first time poster, I'm looking for some guidance. I have a son whose 2, uve been separated from his father for over 6 months because he has a prescription drug abuse issue (tramadol) since sepa...

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Have no idea.

posted Sat 12, Aug 2017 at 8:42am

First. My ex has been seeing our daughter. Every monday and thursday 6-7.30 pm and every other sat 12-6pm. Until last week he kicked my car would not let me leave once i have picked her up because ...

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Introducing a new partner

posted Sun 6, Aug 2017 at 10:38am

I hope I won't be judge for my situation but i need advice on how to move forward. I have two children aged 7 and 4, they both have different fathers. My eldest father was a teen relationship f...

Tags: New partner,introduction,family,children,moving forward,step family
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Breach of family order but was agreed then not

posted Wed 2, Aug 2017 at 10:38pm

Hi advice needed asap plz Basically been in and out of court 5 years with sons dad. He is now 6 diagnosed autistic spectrum adhd glue ear bowl condition. Dad started out supervised section 7 re...

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Giving it a second shot.

posted Wed 2, Aug 2017 at 5:50pm

The reasons that I'm seeking help is I was separated from my long time boyfriend who I have 2 kids with for 3 years. We were together for 10 years before the separation, But I recently found out th...

Tags: Separation,Affair,Second shot
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Breach of court order

posted Mon 31, Jul 2017 at 8:57pm

hello my partner has a child with his ex partner, they went through court and an order was put into place. they had to go to a contact centre for the first 3 - 4 weeks, my partner has sent all o...

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Interim solution required for breakdown in contact

posted Thu 27, Jul 2017 at 9:58am

Hello again, I reached 'agreement' on my contact arrangements on 15th June - I was the applicant and agreed to close the case as the children had expressed a desire to resume contact on a gradua...

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Breach Of Contact Order

posted Tue 25, Jul 2017 at 9:59am

Hi Everyone, Im looking for some advice here. Im currently going through court proceedings regarding contact arrangements for both my children with their father. We haven't had the final order ...

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Ex partner won't speak to to me directly about teenage daughter

posted Fri 28, Oct 2011 at 9:12am

My ex and I separated five years ago now and my daughter is now 14 and he is still doing my head in - he will never speak directly to me which is fine when its just sorting out arrangements ...but...

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fed up !

posted Wed 2, Nov 2011 at 6:12pm

My partner sees the kids ( 9 and 7) every Wednesday 5.00 -6.30 and every other Saturday 9.00 -6.00pm . he is ALWAYS late and turned up today at 5.30pm ! The kids are hungry and he has kept the...

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How do I get started?

posted Fri 9, Dec 2011 at 1:15pm

We have been married for 8 years and have 2 children, aged 4 and 2 years. We have always had a stormy relationship here I have been the noisy angry one and my husband has just walked away and lef...

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What can I do.

posted Tue 13, Dec 2011 at 8:40am

I was married to a violent man for 10 years before I got the help I needed to separate. By then my daughter was 9 years old. she is now 16 and I am horrified that she has started a relationship...

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stay or leave ?

posted Mon 19, Dec 2011 at 6:13pm

My partner and I have not been getting on for ages and we decided earler in the year to stay in the same house and live separate lives . I think it is working for him but it is driving me mad a...

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my boyfreinds ex is trying to take the children

posted Fri 17, Feb 2012 at 9:56am

hi my boyfreind has two little boys and his ex is trying to take the kids from him. When they split up the ex left my boyfreind with the children and has not had contact with them. she has suddenly...

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Worried About My Son Being Taken On Holiday

posted Sun 26, Feb 2012 at 10:15pm

Hello, I am hoping for some guidance - have just joined this site after reading some of the advice given to others and it seems very helpful. My ex and myself split up before I found out I was pr...

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Boyfriend going through Divorce...what do we do?

posted Mon 27, Feb 2012 at 2:04pm

My new boyfriend is going through a divource, but his other half is being troublesome. No they have no children involved as they are grown up and married themselves. Should he mention our intention...

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Dad is trying to turn our child against me

posted Mon 12, Mar 2012 at 1:35pm

I have been separated from my chids dad for about three years and I have always let him have her on a regular basis, but the past year he has been saying some horrible things to our 7 year old girl...

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exercising rights to access a child in uk

posted Sun 8, Apr 2012 at 6:22pm

hi there i am married to a British national . with this marriage i have a son. after 3 years of marriage the relation is not working out well as he came to UK with our son alone and left me in P...

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Child wants to stay less with ex in holidays because of change in circumstances

posted Fri 18, Dec 2015 at 10:30pm

My son (nearly 8 but mature emotionally) has had regular Sat-Sun overnight contact evey other weekend with his father plus extra in the holidays (up to 2-3 days extra tacked on regular weekends) ev...

Tags: Ex,new partner,new living arrangements,contact time,child's wishes
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DNA issues

posted Wed 25, Sep 2013 at 12:16pm

my ex wasn't paying maintenance so i went to the CSA. In order to avoid maintenance he told them our youngest daughter wasn't his. I and she offered to participate in a DNA test which he refused. T...

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plans to move in with new partner

posted Wed 14, Aug 2013 at 7:18pm

hello, new to this and looking for some advice. I am beginning to proceed with divorce. We are looking at sharing 50/50 the care of our daughter. this is the current arrangement and i see no nee...

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How to represent myself in court against an alcoholic gambling ex.

posted Thu 28, Nov 2013 at 12:50am

Hi, i was wondering if anyone could help me, i'm in court on monday afternoon for the 2nd time and although an application for legal aid has been in since september, a decision has still not been m...

Tags: Court,self-representation,ex,alcoholic,safeguarding
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Going to court

posted Wed 9, Apr 2014 at 10:48am

My ex and I are going to court on Monday for the first time to come to some sort of contact arrangement. We live an hour and a half away from each other and is wanting our 4 year old daughter to s...

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False allegations

posted Mon 22, Jun 2015 at 1:04pm

I am and have always been a hands on father. Taking time off work to attend doctors and even hospital appointments. I have a very close bond to my two children, a two and a four year old (boys). ...

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Awaiting a residence court hearing

posted Sun 14, Feb 2016 at 3:18pm

My ex-husband and i separated 10 years ago, despite up's and downs of the past, for the best part of 5 years we have been extremely amicable, for the sake of our two daughters. This was until sept...

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Christmas contact arrangements

posted Wed 21, Nov 2012 at 4:49pm

Hi all, i need some advice and opinions regarding christmas contact. I have a 4 year old and an 18month old boys. My ex and i seperated 2 years ago after i found out (6months pregnant) he had been ...

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I need advice can anyone help?

posted Thu 28, Feb 2013 at 10:02pm

My ex partner is applying to the court to see if he can get me to change my sons surname i dont have legal aid and at the moment he hasnt got parental responsibility but he is also applying for tha...

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My partners ex is causing problems!!

posted Wed 12, Sep 2012 at 2:15pm

I met my partner 2 years ago, and from day 1, I knew he was going to be a father, however from day 1, the ex was causing him problems. We had only been together a few weeks, spending every moment w...

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