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    What are the chances of my ex getting overnight access? I can't trust him to look after her properly? I'm allowing access but not overnight

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    my partners ex is threatening to break contact order because it is mothers day

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      Hi everyone, i believe this might help some people here..
      I have had a lot about Dr Shaka and his good works in bringing back lost relationships and restoring life, but i never believed in spell casters to get back my husband who left me and three kids over three months ago. so a good friend of mine introduced me to Dr Shaka spell just because my condition was so bad and the responsibilities on my head were more than me. My husband left me for another woman probably because he doesn’t love me anymore, so i emailed Dr via his email ( drshakaspells@gmail.com ) and told him everything, he told me not to worry that my husband will come back. He only told me to believe in him that after casting the spell my husband will come back immediately and beg for forgiveness. Dr Shaka actually did it for me and my husband came back to me within three days and i am very happy and all thanks goes to Dr Shaka. I promised Dr Shaka that i will share this testimony to every one if he make me to be happy with my husband again. and he did it, so that is why i am sharing this testimony to every one out here. Now i am the happiest woman on earth because Dr Shaka restored my marriage. You can also contact him via his email ( drshakaspells@gmail.com ). he can also heal any type of sickness and diseases, court case winning spell, addiction cases, and many more.

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    What happens if a child (8 y.o) refuses to go for weekend contact despite contact order? Am I in breach of court order?

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      Of course, yes, technically you are in breach of the order and the other parent may want to challenge what's being said about how the child feels. It can be referred back to the court but this isn't necessarily the best route for a amicable and sustainable outcome. Mediation might be a better way forward to talk things through and for both parents to share their views about what's best for the child.
      You might also want to think of putting this on the Forum on this site, with a bit more background and maybe the chance of the views of others in a similar position?

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      • User-anonymous Manchester Flag

        I suppose to have my children ( 11 & 7 both boys ) last weekend but my ex sent me an email just 2 hours before the picking up time & said children are well but not available for me to see me. She has taken this decision in children's best interest but can have next contact on Easter time.
        BACKGROUND----same day we both were in court ( she did not mentioned above then ) as she refused me to take children to India & court put our case on trial against her wishes.
        My solicitor is taking her back to court that its agianst the court order.

        Mon 27, Mar 2017 at 12:15pm
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    I previously saw a "check list" for how to tell your kids you are separating... please could you send me the link as I can't find it again.

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      I think this is the one: http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/separation-plan-for-telling-your-children-parent-connection

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    Any tips on how to support the children through a separation?

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      Hi, you'll find quite a lot of material on this web site aimed helping children through their parent's separation. Here's link with lots of options to choose on the subject of separation:
      https://www.sortingoutseparation.org.uk/information-for-organisations/
      Also, from our home page, click on the link on the left hand side called 'Children in the Middle'. that will take you to a choice of lots of items covering things you might want to know more about. I hope this helps.

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    ex took me 2 court got a CO for contact ev 2 week he took em 2ce and hasn't been back for a year. Where do I stand I've got full residency

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      What you want to happen next and what would your response be if he did get in touch again. How do you feel about putting this on the Forum with a bit more background? You might get some other ideas in response.

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      • User-anonymous kathym Flag

        Hi everyone, i believe this might help some people here..
        I have had a lot about Dr Shaka and his good works in bringing back lost relationships and restoring life, but i never believed in spell casters to get back my husband who left me and three kids over three months ago. so a good friend of mine introduced me to Dr Shaka spell just because my condition was so bad and the responsibilities on my head were more than me. My husband left me for another woman probably because he doesn’t love me anymore, so i emailed Dr via his email ( drshakaspells@gmail.com ) and told him everything, he told me not to worry that my husband will come back. He only told me to believe in him that after casting the spell my husband will come back immediately and beg for forgiveness. Dr Shaka actually did it for me and my husband came back to me within three days and i am very happy and all thanks goes to Dr Shaka. I promised Dr Shaka that i will share this testimony to every one if he make me to be happy with my husband again. and he did it, so that is why i am sharing this testimony to every one out here. Now i am the happiest woman on earth because Dr Shaka restored my marriage. You can also contact him via his email ( drshakaspells@gmail.com ). he can also heal any type of sickness and diseases, court case winning spell, addiction cases, and many more.

        Sun 23, Jul 2017 at 8:59pm
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      U cant do nothing about that it will be upto ur ex to come if he/she doesnt then u cant do nothing unfortunately it legal terms I mean unless u could reason with yr ex or ur ex has a change of mind

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      • User-anonymous kathym Flag

        Hi everyone, i believe this might help some people here..
        I have had a lot about Dr Shaka and his good works in bringing back lost relationships and restoring life, but i never believed in spell casters to get back my husband who left me and three kids over three months ago. so a good friend of mine introduced me to Dr Shaka spell just because my condition was so bad and the responsibilities on my head were more than me. My husband left me for another woman probably because he doesn’t love me anymore, so i emailed Dr via his email ( drshakaspells@gmail.com ) and told him everything, he told me not to worry that my husband will come back. He only told me to believe in him that after casting the spell my husband will come back immediately and beg for forgiveness. Dr Shaka actually did it for me and my husband came back to me within three days and i am very happy and all thanks goes to Dr Shaka. I promised Dr Shaka that i will share this testimony to every one if he make me to be happy with my husband again. and he did it, so that is why i am sharing this testimony to every one out here. Now i am the happiest woman on earth because Dr Shaka restored my marriage. You can also contact him via his email ( drshakaspells@gmail.com ). he can also heal any type of sickness and diseases, court case winning spell, addiction cases, and many more.

        Sun 23, Jul 2017 at 9:00pm
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    my ex failed to return my daughter home Monday after I gave him additional contact,Ive learned that theyve gone away

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      Hi everyone, i believe this might help some people here..
      I have had a lot about Dr Shaka and his good works in bringing back lost relationships and restoring life, but i never believed in spell casters to get back my husband who left me and three kids over three months ago. so a good friend of mine introduced me to Dr Shaka spell just because my condition was so bad and the responsibilities on my head were more than me. My husband left me for another woman probably because he doesn’t love me anymore, so i emailed Dr via his email ( drshakaspells@gmail.com ) and told him everything, he told me not to worry that my husband will come back. He only told me to believe in him that after casting the spell my husband will come back immediately and beg for forgiveness. Dr Shaka actually did it for me and my husband came back to me within three days and i am very happy and all thanks goes to Dr Shaka. I promised Dr Shaka that i will share this testimony to every one if he make me to be happy with my husband again. and he did it, so that is why i am sharing this testimony to every one out here. Now i am the happiest woman on earth because Dr Shaka restored my marriage. You can also contact him via his email ( drshakaspells@gmail.com ). he can also heal any type of sickness and diseases, court case winning spell, addiction cases, and many more.

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    ex wont talk to our daughter

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      hi can you expand on this a bit more and tell me what you would like help with

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      • Pc Jamie Flag

        Hi , that is tough for your daughter and tough for you to look on . She clearly wants him in her life . thought this article might be of interest http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/family-mediation. Are you able to intervene on her behalf and explain to him how difficult it is for her ?I suppose all you can do is be seen to try and support their relationship but he needs to take responsibilty too and of he chooses not to , you focus on being the best mum you can possibly be. Why not post on the forum as there may be others out there who have gone through similar that may offer some other advice ?

        Tue 27, Mar 2012 at 6:02pm
      • User-anonymous sarahjc Flag

        Basically het dad got his visiting dates wrong, when he asked her to choose (which he should never have done) she chose to be with me. He then hung the phone up after telling her he won't speak to or see her again! I don't know what to say to her, she keeps asking for him and to call him, which he ignores, even when she sends him a text he ignores it and he totally blanked her when we drove passed (yes he did see her) I keep telling her he is busy and working. It's been a month, what happens if he decides he wants to see her again I'n a few months time when she has settled and got used to life without him??

        Mon 26, Mar 2012 at 8:23pm
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      hi can you expand on this a bit more and tell me what you would like help with

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      hi can you expand on this a bit more and tell me what you would like help with

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    My ex lives in the US. Left me when pregnant. Now wants his son to holiday in the US where he doesn't know anybody, without me. He is 11m

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      Do you think you could go as well given your son is so young? What do you fear, that he may try and keep your son in the US?

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      You might want to consider if he knows your sons routine and that they are familiar enough with each other to allow this to happen .

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    I have found out Lucy not mine by blood but i am on birth certificate and have been there every day for 6 yrs it do i have rights

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      What a blow for you. The way I'd look at it is from Lucy's point of view. What would she want?

      Do use the forum if you would like more support.

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      not sure on the legal position on this but if you a re named on the birth certificate that gives you parental responsibility . his article may help http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/fathers-legal-rights-and-responsibilities.
      sounds as if you have been a big part of the child's life . Is there a chance you could be excluded now? might be worth posting on the forum as others can often help .

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    Don't have PR as my kid's mum refused to give it. The mum is now gravely ill and made her dad my kid's guardian. I want PR..what can I do?

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      They will take into account reasons for applying for the order so you should have a strong case. They will also look at the strength of commitment of the father and the attachment between father and child

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      You can apply to court to get parental responsibility - see link for details: http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/fathers-legal-rights-and-responsibilities
      What a very difficult situation for you - I hope you get sorted out.

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    I live in my partners house with my 2 children, he says the relationship is ended and wants us out. Where do I start to sort this out?

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      Hi, I'd put your comment on the forum as many more people will see your question there. I agree with the other comments about advice. Also, does this article help at all? http://theparentconnection.org.uk/articles/managing-a-long-break-up-parent-connection.

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      It's hard to say without more information about your circumstances. I would suggest that you go on to the forum as you'll get much more help. Is the housing situation your main worry? It would be useful to have more info - How long have you lived together and how old area the children? Is the house rented or owned by your partner? Whatever the answers I suppose that you need to find out what your housing options are for if you move out. Start with your local housing dept. the CAB would also be helpful. It might be worth getting some legal advice too. In the meantime go to the Forum. It is such a big worry when this happens but there is lots of support for you . Hope we hear from you soon.

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      • User-anonymous lelc Flag

        The children are 5 and 10, the house is owned by partner and I've lived there 3 years.
        Partner has brain tumor recently had meds changed. My family live 200 miles away, do I disrupt the children s schooling and move closer to family or stay local thinking its meds and condition which is making partner want us out? can i suspend my school placement here and temporarily put the children in school local to family until I'm sure of where would be best to live, does moving in with parents hinder my chance of my own place??

        Mon 20, May 2013 at 8:30pm
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    I do not want my children to see my ex husbands new partner

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      just been through this my little one is 4 and found out he told me he was getting a place on his own but he now has his partner living there. I stopped him letting her sleep as he was not honest with me and demanded to see the girlfriend or I would not allow it. He lives in a one bedroom place to.
      I saw the girlfriend it was hard but did not want a stranger in the house or sleeping in the same place. I now have really put my foot down and made rules so he understands what I expect and now he listens and IT IS STILL HARD but made me feel more at ease.

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      It can be v upsetting thinking about your children spending time with your ex's gf. The questions you have to ask yourself are: will it harm the children if they do? How harmful to the children is a big falling out between you and their dad over this?
      I guess you have questions you want to ask your ex about this - for tips on how to have a difficult conversation click on the Programmes tab on the home page. Or ...have you thought about giving mediation a try?

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    after been separated for three years my son refuses to see his dad

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      How old is your son ? My son does not see his dad and hasn't for a few years (he is now 13), my daughter (8) sees dad although is increasingly saying that she doesn't want to go. I insist that she goes because I think she should have a relationship with her dad and there is a court order in place. However, if there wasn't a court order and she was saying she didn't want to go, I would invite her dad to sit with me and talk with her so that the parents can do what is best for the child. Sometimes children want to see that there parents are ok with each other. Unfortunately me ex refuses to communicate with me in any way so this is not able to happen in our household.

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      That must be worrying for you. Would you like to say more about your situation by posting on the Forum? You will get support from lots more people there.

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      • User-anonymous Sinead Flag

        That's really tough...particularly if your daughter is now getting upset too. However, you and your ex seem to be doing your best to accommodate him. I wonder if it's anything to do with coming into puberty and all the body changes etc that brings with it. Who does he gravitate towards most when he is feeling vulnerable? I remember my son had issues to do with not growing as fast as his peers at that age. Your children sound well loved by both of you and as you know that's what matters.

        Fri 30, May 2014 at 3:21pm
      • User-anonymous stella5 Flag

        My son is 10 and daughter 8, contact has always been consistent since the separation every other weekend and extra in school holidays. I have a mainly civil relationship with my ex but it has been difficult at times. We both have new long term partners who the children seem to like. My son has gone through different stages of not wanting to go but I have always insisted on it until recently when he was getting very upset about going and begging me to stay at home. I agreed he cpuld chose when he wanted to go. He now refuses to go on most occasions and his dad has been trying to make changes. I have spoke to his school teacher and she has tried to talk to him but he wont give any valid reason for not going just saying he his unhappy. I have tried encouragement and not doing anything fun when he should be at his dad but nothing is working. It is upsetting my daughter and I now dont know what to do for the best for my children
        Any advice would be very welcome thanks

        Thu 15, May 2014 at 8:41pm